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Sharon
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Date Posted: 08/22/07 11:33am
In reply to:
Nicole
's message, "I don't know what to do" on 08/22/07 9:05am
Nicole,
Take a deep breath. This is important news. It may seem like your world is crashing in on you right now, but you do have positive options and you do have time. So, don't let anyone pressure you into thinking that you have to make a rushed, pressured decision.
When I was a freshman in college, I found I was pregnant. My boyfriend wanted me to abort. My friends wanted me to abort. I'd always thought of myself as pro-life, but faced with what I thought was a hopeless situation, even I thought maybe I should abort. I ended up making an appointment at Planned Parenthood for an abortion. I wrestled with the decision. I felt so trapped and felt like time was running out. It ended up that the person who gave me the most helpful advice was my pro-choice stepmother. She was an ob-gyn nurse. She said, "You know how I feel about abortion [that it should be the woman's choice], but I know YOU, Sharon, and I know YOU could never live with yourself if you had an abortion." I will be eternally grateful to her for her advice. She then got out her nursing textbooks and showed me pictures of the developing fetus. Much more than the "blob of tissue" or "mass of cells" Planned Parenthood had been refering to, he had all of his organs, a heart that was beating, brain waves, even tiny fingers and toes! I couldn't believe it. I had let myself be duped into thinking that he was the size of a pencil dot (a blastocyst - which is the stage a developing human goes through in the first hours and days of its existence.) I got on the phone to cancel the appointment, but I remember for a very brief moment the thought running through my mind 'This is going to inconvenience them - they've got the appointment set and everything.' Of course, I immediately realized how ridiculous that was - they wanted to kill my baby and I was worried about inconveniencing THEM?!?!
Fast-forward to now: My son is 27 years old. He is one of the most incredible, kind, generous, loving people I know. I cannot - and do not want to - imagine my world without him in it. Beyond being my son, he is my friend. Plus, I went on to complete my Masters degree. So, having a pregnancy during college does not mean your college career is over ;-)
I look back at the decisions I have made in my life and without question the BEST decision I EVER made was to cancel that abortion appointment.
I can guarantee you that while you may or may not regret having an abortion, you will NEVER regret NOT having an abortion ;-) Things may be tough, but you'd be amazed at the resources out there available for you - and you'd be amazed at the inner strength lying within you.
If you don't feel you're ready to have a baby right now, you might want to look into open adoptions. There are links to lots of resources and information at this website: http://student.augie.edu/~lifealliance/ Click the "LifeLinks" button to go to: http://student.augie.edu/~lifealliance/lifelinks.html
I'll be thinking about you.
Sharon
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