Author:
Sharon
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Date Posted: 09/10/07 2:53pm
Amanda,
One thing that concerns me is that if you abort your first child together, you will always have the memory of that between the two of you. No other child will ever replace your first. (It sounds like this little person was meant to be here if he or she managed to get here in spite of birth control ;-)
I, too, had my first child while in college. I managed to complete my Bachelors and go on to get my Masters. Having a child sometimes actually puts you in a position to receive more aid, plus there are many resources available to help. You should contact your county health nurse and get on the W.I.C. (Women Infants and Children) program. It provides you with free vouchers for healthy food while you're pregnant (like milk, cheese, peanut butter, eggs, iron-fortified cereal, and fruit juice). If you choose to nurse your baby, W.I.C. continues to provide you with nutritional food for a year after your pregnancy. If you decide not to nurse, it provides your baby with formula for a year and with healthy food until he or she is 5! It's a GREAT program.
I just feel a real heaviness in my heart when you say that you don't want to have an abortion, but feel like you might have to. One of the main indicators of whether or not a woman will regret having had an abortion is if she felt pressured (by circumstances, by husband, by parents, by school, by job, by finances, by whatever) to have the abortion, but didn't REALLY want to have it.
Right now, your little one has only you to protect him or her. I can promise you that you will never regret NOT having an abortion, but many women regret HAVING an abortion.
You might want to go online and find out information about fetal development. Lots of times, we tend to think of the baby growing inside us as the size of a pencil dot, when realy the baby developes very early on. In fact, he or she has a heart that is beating, brain waves, and all organs in place by the time most women even know they're pregnant. So, far from being a mass of cells or blob of tissue, the little one growing inside you is a tiny human being - your tiny son or daughter.
I had an appointment to have an abortion, but I cancelled it. Words can't describe how grateful I am that I did. At the moment I was making "my" choice, I held my son's very life in my hands. My life is so blessed with his presence now.
I'll say a prayer for you and your fiance and your little one. There always seems to be not quite enough money, regardless of the things that fill our lives. But, money pales in comparision to the reality that you two are the parents of your own tiny little person.
God bless you...
Sharon
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