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Re: Couldn't have - Can't have

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Tracey (Tara, we're here for you!!!!)

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Date Posted: 09/11/07 5:20am
In reply to: Tara 's message, "Couldn't have - Can't have" on 09/11/07 3:15am

Hi Tara and welcome! Wow, it sounds like you are dealing with a whirlwind of emotions right now. The chances of you getting pregnant at this point with Endometriosis are slim to none and now here you are, pregnant!!! I understand your concerns with the chemo and it's effects, but I was doing some research and I wanted you to check out this article on chemo and pregnancy:
http://www2.mdanderson.org/depts/oncolog/articles/04/1-jan/1-0
4-1.html
Can I ask what, "disabling illness" you're referring to? And what types of medication are you on for it? I wouldn't jump to abortion right away--there may be other alternative medications out there for your illness that can allow you to have a successful pregnancy. We have had several women come on here concerned because they had been on all kinds of meds for illnesses and many have had successful pregnancies and perfectly healthy babies! It's amazing how resilient these little guys can be!
Tara, I want to encourage you to look into all your options...it's great that you are coming here for support and guidance! We promise to help in any way we can! Please post as often as you want!
I will be praying for you, your husband, and for this pregnancy. Please come back and keep us posted!
God bless,
Tracey

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Tara
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Date Posted: 09/11/07 8:58am

Hi Tracey,

Thanks for your reply.

I have Rheumatoid disease and am on many medications, from anti-imflams, pain meds, steroids, muscle relaxants - and the chemo drug being methotrexate.
I have also since learned while reading up about abortions that methotrexate is one of the drugs used in chemical abortions.
Even though in the last week I have switched to another type of chemo, the effects of methotrexate are supposed to last in your system (and thereby affect pregnancy) for up to 6 months. (I got pregnant one month ago. Yes, I remember the night lol).

I read your article, thank you, and I found it to be mainly based around cancers and workarounds for pregnancy, rather than a medication-affected fetus. I appreciate the thought but I can't see it applying in this case - unless someone out there in the medical field knows differently.

I am going to one of my specialists today and shall be asking some of the hard questions.

No doubt I shall be posting that news later on.

Thanks,

~Tara

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Re: Couldn't have - Can't have

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Tracey
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Date Posted: 09/11/07 11:17am

Hi Tara! I'm sorry! :P I thought it was something cancer related...I guess when you said you were doing chemo, my brain just went to cancer.
I can't help but think though out of all the times you haven't gotten pregnant...here you are now pregnant and unsure what to do. I, of course, can't tell you what to do, but I can tell you what I'd do. I'd talk to my doctors, see if there's any other types of safer meds out there for the illness, see my OB/GYN, and let things take their course. I know you said the meds will last in your system up to 6 months...I would just pray for the baby to be safe. When my sis-in-law's sister was pregnant, she was told after several sonograms that the baby had NO intestines and that she should have an abortion. She decided to continue in the pregnancy and if it was meant to be, things would be ok. She now has a healthy 9 year old little boy with all his insides! :) The doctors were completely baffled. We have had so many women come here with the same type of dilemma you are having...they have been on TONS of medications for various reasons and all that have continued in their pregnancies delivered healthy babies. So, who knows!!! I do believe there's a plan and a purpose to everything. I can't tell you why this has happened at this time, but I do think it's quite a miracle, however you look at it.
Tara, we are here for you...I am praying for you! Please continue to keep us posted!
God bless,
Tracey