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Re: Having an abortion tomorrow

Author:
Tracey (Alison, PLEASE read!!!)

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Date Posted: 10/12/07 4:46am
In reply to: Pat 's message, "Re: Having an abortion tomorrow" on 10/12/07 2:18am

Alison~
I pray I'm not too late in sending this! I know what your ex did to your daughter is COMPLETELY ad UTTERLY wrong!!! You have to make sure that you hit him with every charge possible! What the investigator told you isn't entirely true! By law, if he is convicted of child molestation, he isn't allowed within 500 feet of a child...INCLUDING YOUR DAUGHTER and this baby!!! Trust me, the law WILL back you up!!!
Alison, everything in you seems to be crying out against this...now that you have a little girl, you see the amazing beauty of your child...and now know what abortion has done to you in the past...why make it a part of your present??? I know you say it's part of him, but Alison---it's part of you as well!! This is part of your little girl--a brother or sister!!! I know what you say about your parents--let them make all the threats they want! Seriously, if they're going to say that they'll never see your daughter again, then let them say it. This is a form a abuse they are committing! They are holding this over your head to get you to do what they want you to do. But this will kill you inside, Alison! We are here to help! We can find you resources in your area that can help you from counseling to housing. My prayer is that you will at least cancel your appointment today and give this a little more thought. Look into all your resources! We promise to help in ANY way we can! You are not alone!!! Alison, listen to your heart...please feel free to come back and post!
God bless,
Tracey

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[> [> [> Subject: Re: Having an abortion tomorrow (it's over)

Author:
Alison
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Date Posted: 10/13/07 5:17pm

I appreciate all your concern, but I did it, and it's over. I was the last woman to be seen that day, as it took me a long time to stop crying, and decide that was what I had to do. I am so mad about being put in this situation, but the investigators are telling the truth, at most, he will face child endangerment charges, not child molestation. And if he does, that doesn't deny him rights to his OWN children. The law is messed up that way, but that's the law trying to give children two parents, even if one is a child molestor. I can't put my daughter through anymore than she's already been through, she's having a hard enough time as is.

My heart is broken, so please, no judgement, I'll be doing it enough to myself. It wasn't the baby that was wrong, it was the baby's father, and I have such hate towards him for causing me to hurt my baby like this.

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Author: Tracey [ Edit \| View ]	Date Posted: 10/14/07 4:15am Alison~ I just wanted to let you know that I will be praying for you. I'm sorry to hear you went through all of this...but we are not here to judge you. Please feel free to post anytime. God bless, Tracey

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Author:
Heather
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Date Posted: 10/14/07 10:22am

Hi Allison,

I'm sorry for your loss, too. If you think it would be helpful, most pregnancy resource centers offer post abortion counseling services. Many women have found these incredibly healing. Some have come for them years after their abortion, so it's an option for down the road if you need it.

And like Tracey said, please know none of us here would judge you - how can we? We're human beings like yourself. We have have a conviction that abortion is wrong, but that conviction ends with the act itself. We're not qualified for anything else.

Please know that you are more than welcome here to post anytime about anything. It's a great group of women.

My condolences to the struggle with the law protecting your daughter. You may need to step in yourself if you are truly convinced he is unsafe for her. Don't give up.

With Kindness,

Heather