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Subject: Re: I let someone make my decision

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Jennifer

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Date Posted: 10/29/07 8:37pm
In reply to: Jennifer 's message, "I let someone make my decision" on 10/25/07 9:20am

Thank you for your support and advice in such a bad time! I want you to know that I am very Thankful to have found you guys because every other site that I found was so judgemental and the comments that people would leave I could not believe they could say to another human! I just thought that I would give you and update on things:

- I have my good days and my bad days...Mostly bad :(

- I contacted a life house in my hometown and have made arrangements to attend their 10 wk post abortion spiritual counciling group! I am very optimistic about this.

- My fiance that I have been with for 5 years and have two daughters by have broken up! I just could not take looking at him anymore! I mean I was supposed to be able to go to him in a time of need and he is who hurt me! But life goes on.

- I still think of the abortion everyday :( Sometimes I wish that I could wake up and never remember it but I will for the rest of my life! I have to go for a post abortion appt to make sure that everything was okay and I hope that after that I can be on the road to recovery because the less that I have to think about the procedure that I had the better off I will be.

I am still carrying the ultra sound pictures in my wallet but hopefully in time I will let them go.But once again I want to Thank you from the bottom of my heart and cannot tell you how bad I wish that I could have talked with you before I had the procedure! Thank you so much!

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Re: I let someone make my decision

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Tracey
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Date Posted: 10/30/07 1:16pm

Jennifer~
Oh, I am so glad you are seeking help. It's also great that you are seeking support and advice. I'm so sorry to hear other people were so mean on the other site you had posted on. They have NO right to judge--we have had many women come here post abortion just broken and unsure of where to go. Many are depressed, angry, and broken hearted. I believe it is our duty to help you pick up the broken pieces and seek help to begin the healing process. So many times women choose abortion out of just plain fear or pressure from others. Did you choose to have the abortion? Yes...but you were faced with tremendous pressures and confusion. You had no support to help you do what your heart told you was right. You are in pain because you were being made to choose between your love for your baby and your love for him. What an unfair choice. But it is a choice that thousands of women face every day. The good news is, you are not alone and I truly believe that even something ugly as abortion can have positive outcomes. Right now, it is important that you first seek help and heal. But I truly think you would make a great addition here on the boards as well. You have been in these girl's shoes and can tell them your experiences and from those experiences, I believe they can learn.
But as I said before, I believe it is so important that you begin the healing process. Please don't ever hesitate to post here. You are always welcome. You will have your ups and downs....this is very normal in this situation. But we promise to be here to listen and help in any way we can.
God bless,
Tracey