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Subject:

Abortion

Author:
charlene (sad and confused)

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Date Posted: 03/17/07 11:35am

I recently found out i was pregnant I have just turned 21 and had an abortion on the 9th march 2007 the baby wasn't planned at all and when i told my boyfriend i was pregnant he was very supportive but i knew it wasn't the ideal situation to have a baby because he works away and will do for another 2 years just coming home weekends and holidays so we talked and at 10 weeks i had an abortion but i can't help to think i have done wrong i work in a nursery to and that has made it even harder i am so low and i hurt so much deep down i don't know what to do

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[> Subject: Re: Abortion

Author:
Heather
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Date Posted: 03/17/07 9:23pm

Hi Charlene,

I'm so glad you found this forum; you're extremely welcome here. I am also SO sorry for the grief abortion has brought you. Please know that you're definitely not alone.

There are some wonderful, amazingly healing support groups that are offered free through local Crisis Pregnancy Centers or Pregnancy Resource Centers. They're called H.O.P.E. or the equivalent. You can choose whether or not you want to go just a couple of times to talk and decompress or do a 10 week once a week meeting. You can also choose whether or not you want to meet just privately with a post abortion counselor or with a small group of women who are also recovering from an abortion.

All the services are free, confidential, and very professional as well as compassionate. You can find you city's local center by just googling Pregnancy Resource Centers and filling in your zip code.

That aside, please know it's okay to cry. It's a big deal. It's totally natural that you're experiencing what you are. There is hope in both forgiveness and healing from the God who made you and your baby. He is always present for the asking.

You can come here and post/decompress whenever you'd like, too. Later, if you feel like it, you can even come to encourage and help other women.

Be sure to take good care of yourself - eat lots of high iron foods and get rest. I know that will only help the body and not the soul, but take the matter to God and humble yourself before Him and He can heal your soul, too. He delights to give beauty for ashes, and honors a contrite heart.

With Kindness,

Heather

[> Subject: Re: Abortion

Author:
Lisa
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Date Posted: 03/23/07 9:02pm

Charlene,

I did not see your post until today, I am so sorry! I would have written a note sooner.

Although I have not had an abortion, I can tell that you are feeling very sad. I know that at this point you feel that you have no where to turn and can not talk to anyone about your feelings.

Heather has given you some very good and sound advice. A pregnancy center can give you the help that you need. We are here to talk to if you need to come here and talk about your feelings.

I am sorry that you had to go through this and that you felt alone and so sad.

I will say prayers for you and your family. Please come here and let us know how you are doing.

Lisa

[> Subject: Re: Abortion
Author: Shellie [ Edit \| View ]	Date Posted: 03/26/07 12:44am Dear Charlene, I hope you take Heather's advice and seek counseling through your local crisis pregnancy center. God knows your pain. Turn to Him for comfort and healing. Post here anytime. Love, Shellie

[> Subject: Re: Abortion

Author:
Pat
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Date Posted: 05/ 2/07 8:47pm

Charlene,

You have been heavy on my heart. How are you doing? I have been praying for you.

I agree with everyone else. When you reach the point that you are truly sorry for the decision you made, that is when healing can begin. God welcomes and forgives you when you are truly sorry, and can and will make you whole again. Even though it seems like He is far away, He is right there beside you, and He loves it when you say "I am sorry" because He wants to comfort you like a loving Father.

Read the Psalms. I think you will find great comfort in them.

I pray that you will have peace. You will never forget, but you can appreciate your life once more.

Hugs and prayers,
Pat