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Re: please help me??????????

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Shellie

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Date Posted: 06/ 5/07 11:45pm
In reply to: kaniesha 's message, "please help me??????????" on 06/ 5/07 4:39pm

Dear KaNiesha,

Thank you so much for posting here. I'm so sorry you have to experience this pain. The most important thing you can do is turn to God. He is a forgiving God. And although there is no going back, you can go forward. It's normal to grieve, but you need to forgive yourself. It's healthy to grieve this loss. But if you don't forgive yourself you'd be doing a disservice to God and yourself.

I urge you to seek out counseling through your local crisis pregnancy center. They offer post-abortive counseling free of charge. The women in charge of post-abortive counseling at my local CPC have had an abortion and can totally relate to the women they counsel. Please consider this for yourself!

Post-Abortion Counseling

I'm sure you're disappointed by your family's actions. Families of women/young ladies experiencing an unplanned pregnancy tend to have negative reactions, at first. Parents fear that a baby will hinder the success of their child. Sometimes their initial reaction is to get rid of the problem. But this reaction does not take into consideration the lingering effects their child will experience: pain, guilt, and regret.

Perhaps forgiving your parents will be helpful in your healing process. I also think you should be allowed to voice your painful feelings relating to your abortion.

My heart goes out to you. I wish I could give you back your child. But he/she is in heaven and I have no such powers. All I can do is pray for God to send you a sense of peace to comfort you.

Please feel free to post here as often as you like. Your posts can help others avoid this painful road. And at the same time, it can help you in the healing process.

Sincerely,

Shellie

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Tracey (praying for you...)
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Date Posted: 06/ 6/07 6:07am

KaNiesha~
I'm so glad you decided to post. You have found a safe, supportive place. I wanted to stop by and tell you about a good post abortion site called, "Safe Haven." Here is their web-site: http://www.safehavenministries.com/
Of course you are more than welcome to post on our boards as well, but I wanted to tell you about this one as well because they specifically focus on post abortion healing.
KaNiesha, I am praying for you as you grieve and as you begin the healing process. We are here anytime you need us.
God bless,
Tracey