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Subject: Re: ive made the decision and i went 4 my scan!!

Author:
luka

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Date Posted: 08/27/06 7:12pm
In reply to: pixey 's message, "ive made the decision and i went 4 my scan!!" on 08/27/06 5:45pm

Wow that was quick! You must have a good doctor, i have allways had at least a week to be scheduled for any of my ultrasounds. I am glad you were able to see your baby for yourself it is pretty miraculous isn't it?
As for the father, i don't know what to tell you really as i am in a similar situation (age issues aside) I am still struggling with the lack of care by a man who i thought that even if he wasn't 'in love' with me he at least held something resembling love for me. I am just feeling the hurt and going about my day to day buisness because unfortunately there is no mircacle cure for a broken heart. It just takes time. It feels bad and it feels like you'll never feel better. But i know, because i have been through so many painful things in my life, that eventually you do get over it. I guess the hardest part is letting go of what you thought was true. It feels like everything was a lie and you feel so foolish i know. I guess you just have to keep moving forward no matter what. Thats one of the great things about having a child or children that no matter what happens you have to keep going for them, you can't drop the ball. It has foreced me to an extent to get out of my head and stay somewhat in the stream of life not getting as insular as i would have otherwise. Life is not easy and youre so young to be learing this. As you grow into womanhood you realise more and more what the meaning of life is to you. You are having to learn some of lifes challenging complexities a little earlier and faster than others but thats ok. It just means you'll be that much wiser sooner than others thus more equipped to know what you want and go for it.

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Author:
Heather
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Date Posted: 08/28/06 9:36am

Hi Pixey,

What a great post to read! I'm so pleased for you that you got the opportunity to see your little one so soon. I agree; it's completely amazing. Sometimes a picture really does speak louder than words.

I'm also thankful for the peace and resolve you've been blessed with. If you're over the hurdle of painful indecision things are likely to get much easier from here on out!

If you're interested, there's a wonderful book for first time moms called, "What to Expect When You're Expecting" that covers just about every possile question a woman could have about pregnancy. I was never 2 ft from it during my first two pregnancies, lol. It's very common and can be found at literally any bookstore. Other news to know - now is a perfect time to start taking a good prenatal vitamin and getting lots of extra rest for yourself. Your baby is growing more rapidly now than he/she will at any point in the rest of your pregnancy and you'll feel it in your extra need for sleep.

Take good care of yourself! Your external challenges will seem less daunting if faced with a well rested and cared for body and patience with yourself and others.

Lastly - CONGRATULATIONS! on your baby. May your pregnancy be blessed and this child be a loving crossroads in your life. I rejoice in thinking of you being able to hold your newborn for the first time.

Stay around and post throughout your pregnancy whenever you feel like it. I'd love to hear updates and firsts, and collectively the women here have a lot of info and wisdom of pregnancy and children and can answer most questions you might have.

With Kindness,

Heather