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hi im pixeys best friend PLEASE READ this. its VERY important

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emma >.<

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Date Posted: 09/ 5/06 9:05pm

hi. nobody here knows me and i dont really know you but i am pixeys best friend. well i was her best friend she took her own life yesterday and i did not have a clue why until i stumbled across your website marked in her "favorites" and i started to look around your website and then i found this forum and read some of her posts and found out that she was pregnant and lost her baby. i could not believe what i was seeing so i figured out who the older man was and i asked him for the truth and he confirmed everything i found here. i just want to thank everyone so much for being there for her in her time of need. she is with god now and her baby so she will be pleased. i suppose everything happens for a reason but i just dont think it is right for someone so young and talented with such a bright future to do such a thing. hopefully the pain has stopped. the older man who used her is feeling so much guilt because most of this was caused by him i havnt told anybody about it because its not what she would have wanted. i just dont understand why she could not come to me. anyway thank you again and thank you for not judging her because she was a really good person just too trusting. god bless

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[> Subject: Re: hi im pixeys best friend PLEASE READ this. its VERY important
Author: Melanie [ Edit \| View ]	Date Posted: 09/ 6/06 9:24am Wow... I'm at a total loss for words. All I can say is that I am very, very sorry. Have you thought of making a memorial for her? I know there are sites online that allow you to do that. I would love to see it. When is the funeral?

[> Subject: Re: hi im pixeys best friend PLEASE READ this. its VERY important

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Pat
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Date Posted: 09/ 6/06 9:53am

Emma,

I am really sorry to hear this, and I'm glad you came and told us.

What Pixey wanted notwithstanding, you need to tell someone about this. Here is a man who took advantage of her, and as a result, a bright young lady lost her life. Our biggest problem is that we no longer take this sort of thing seriously. Even though he has horrible guilt feelings, what was he doing taking advantage of her in the first place? What is he covering up? I ask myself that. Go to your local crisis pregnancy agency and tell them what happened. Let them guide you in what to do. Have them get in touch with us, and we will tell them what we know. Now that Pixey is in heaven, she knows that God wants people to be held accountable. It's not doing someone a favor to let him get away with it. He needs to repent, and that's not likely to happen if he gets away with it.

Let us know what else you find out. Thanks so much!

Hugs,
Pat

[> Subject: Re: hi im pixeys best friend PLEASE READ this. its VERY important

Author:
Shellie
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Date Posted: 09/ 6/06 10:53am

Hi Emma,

This is terrible! I'm so sorry to hear this! I agree with Pat, you need to tell someone about this. We can't save Pixey, but somehow we need to help prevent this from happening to other young ladies. Please tell someone about this. He should be held accountable for this.

Please let me know when/where the funeral is, I'd love to send flowers or help in some way. You can email me by clicking on my email, above.

Thanks for letting us know about this, Emma. Please stick around.

With Sympathy,

Shellie

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Re: hi im pixeys best friend PLEASE READ this. its VERY important

Author:
Lahela
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Date Posted: 09/ 7/06 8:10am

Some of you may know me, I'm a peer counselor and I drop in here sometimes to offer support and my advice. Well also, I'm a person who's struggles with depression and have survived two suicide attempts, but am now on the road to recovery. It absolutly broke my heart to hear of this young lady taking her own life in grief and I do offer my deepest sympathies to Emma. I just wish that Pixie would of been able to reach out and get professional help. To others who may be reading this, all though it may all seem overwhelming right now, there is hope and healing from abuse and the grief of loosing a child. Please don't keep it a secret any longer, you are not to blame for what's happening to you, the only person acccountable is your abuser. Please seek professional help!

Emma, I agree with the others. Although Pixie may have been afraid to speak up, you can make a difference. This man should be brought to justice for what he did and put Pixie through, no woman should have to suffer from abuse in silence. Also, the others have made a good suggestion, creating a memorial for her and her baby. Also another idea would be to donate to an advocacy charity that helps victims of sexual assualt/rape and participating in a "Take Back the Night" memorial service for rape suriviors. This gives victims like Pixie a voice and fights the stigma of abuse. But right now, my thoughts will be with you during this time of grief.

[> [> Subject: Re: hi im pixeys best friend PLEASE READ this. its VERY important

Author:
Lahela (((Hugs)))
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Date Posted: 09/ 8/06 6:55am

Emma,
Looking back, I realized that I confused Pixie with another young lady, a victim of incest, and that's why the refrences to rape and "Take Back the Night" Still, I do think this man taking advantage of a young teen is wrong, consensual or not.
I recommend confiding in her doctor for now and seeing what s/he has to say, but it's up to you. I'm just thinking that her parents need time to process their grief for their daughter's death before hearing about the issues with the boyfriend. If it's any reassurance, usually miscarriages which occur early in pregnancy, do so because the embryo is not compatible with life, it's nothing the mother did or didn't do. My thoughts go with you.

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Re: hi im pixeys best friend PLEASE READ this. its VERY important

Author:
emma >.<
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Date Posted: 09/ 8/06 3:19am

hey everyone. her funeral was today. it sucked so much. so many people where thereit was a big church and about 30people would have been outside because they couldnt fit in, it was packed and all you could hear was people crying. HE showed up and i just wanted to ask him to leave so badly but i did not want to cause a scene. ive decided to tell 1 of her docters (they were quite close) and see what advice she gives me then i will take it from there. i found a tape of the ultrasound she had and oh it was amazing. thank you all once again for being there for her i cant even begin imagine how she must have felt. i think she thought that loosing the baby was all her fault. do i tell her parents before i tell the docter?

[> [> Subject: Re: hi im pixeys best friend PLEASE READ this. its VERY important
Author: Pat [ Edit \| View ]	Date Posted: 09/ 8/06 9:08am Hi, Emma, My heart goes out to all of you. I'd tell the doctor first. Let him advise you on the best way to approach her parents. Let us know how it goes. We will be praying for all of you. Hugs, Pat

[> Subject: Re: hi im pixeys best friend PLEASE READ this. its VERY important
Author: nikki [ Edit \| View ]	Date Posted: 09/ 8/06 6:33pm wow, i'm so sorry to hear about this. i didn't really know Pixie, but i did read a post or two of hers. i do know what it's like to lose a friend though. i know it's hard, but i hope you're getting through it. and if you need someone to talk to, feel free to email me: reasonxfromxoctober@yahoo.com and again, i'm really sorry...

[> Subject: Emma - How are You Doing?
Author: Lahela [ Edit \| View ]	Date Posted: 09/17/06 4:41pm Emma, Just thinking about you. How are you and her family doing?

[> [> Subject: Re: Emma - How are You Doing?
Author: emma >.< [ Edit \| View ]	Date Posted: 09/22/06 2:55pm hi. not to good. none of us know what to do with ourselves. still cant believe it. her docter and i decided to wait a while until we told anybody about what happned. i found out that i am pregnant to my fiance, dont know whetha to be happy or sad or what. the people at my church believe it is pixeys doing but im not too sure about that 1

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Emma - How are You Doing?
Author: Melanie [ Edit \| View ]	Date Posted: 09/25/06 7:03pm You spoke with Pixey's doctor? You might want to speak with a grief counselor about this. A doctor is not a counselor. What does your fiance think? --Melanie

[> [> [> Subject: Re: Emma - How are You Doing?
Author: Pat [ Edit \| View ]	Date Posted: 09/27/06 5:25am Emma, How can possible pregnancy be Pixey's doing? How do you feel about being pregnant? Pat