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Subject: Re: im freaking out!!


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SabrinaLee
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Date Posted: 11/19/06 9:18pm
In reply to: SabrinaLee 's message, "im freaking out!!" on 11/ 6/06 9:31am

hey all! i wanted to tell you guys that the dr appt went well. i called my dr back home (cause i needed to have my records sent over) and he seemed shocked when i got to talk to him, cause he had told me that it would be difficult for me to get pregnant in the first place :| anyway, the dr here said everything should be fine. i've made some appointments with a clinic here as well.

my dad took the news well, actually. im surprised, but SO happy! i still have a few other ppl to tell... but my dad was teh one i was most concerned about... he still doesnt know that the father is the way he is... he might freak about that

im still a little worried about school and day care... i talked to the father and he was telling me that i should get this needle as long as im less than 6 weeks pregnant, which i guess induces a miscarriage. i told him my views and beliefs. he told me that it wasnt the "right" step for us. and then he "need{ed} a few days to think."... i havent heard from him since, its been over a week. i just wonder if he'll ever contact me at all... either way, maybe its better that i cut myself off from him completely just b/c he's not helping with anything, as far as some emotional support goes. he already has a child and this was his main reason for wanting me to get an abortion... i thought about it, and i just cant... apparently the mother of his first child had a couple of abortions before she decided to birth Mats (their son)... hey i'm pro choice, but i personally cannot do it. to each their own, i say

im getting into a lot of details for y'all! sorry!!! i tend to blab... i might come on here more often just to update you guys and get some advice... knock on wood, no morning sickness yet! :D but im sooooooo tired!

i wanted to thank EACH of you for all your support and advice!! thank you so so so so much! and tracey, i hope all of your little ones are doing better :)

talk to you guys later!!
xo
SabrinaLee

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Author:
Tracey
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Date Posted: 11/21/06 5:27am

SabrinaLee~
Hey mama! Glad to hear you broke the news to your father! What a relief! I'm so glad he responded so well! I'm sure you feel much better!
As far as your your baby's father, I would just keep my distance from him. He sounds like he needs a bit of growing up to do. Plus, you don't need that added stress. He's only acting selfish and thinking about how this is going to effect him without considering your feelings or the life of his unborn child.
Glad to hear you made appointments with a clinic as well. If you need any extra resources, let us know. Crisis Pregnancy Centers can be SO helpful in finding that extra help! If you would like some clinics in your area, let us know. We just need your state and closest city.
SabrinaLee, feel free to come here as often as you like. We enjoy reading your updates and promise to support and offer advice whenever you need it!
Hopefully, you won't get that morning sickness! I had it with all four of mine(see pic at top of page-I need to update it).
In the meantime, I'll be praying for you and your little one! I'm also praying for the daycare situation.
Have a wonderful day, honey!
God bless,
Tracey
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Author:
Sharon
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Date Posted: 11/21/06 8:44am

Hey...WOW!!!! This is so exciting. I am SO happy for you. You will NEVER regret not having an abortion. I can promise you that from personal experience.

I've got to tell you that I'm writing with tears in my eyes right now. I was in college when I got pregnant. My boyfriend wanted me to abort. I didn't. He left my life. But, I have my incredible, loving, awesome, funny, smart, loyal, dear son - who's going to be 27 Dec. 8!!!!! I am SO grateful that I didn't do something against my heart just to please my boyfriend and possibly keep him around (in retrospect I know he would have left anyway and I would have been in the same boat as so many other women.) I loved him, but he wasn't worth killing my son for. That sounds blunt...and it didn't feel as stark as that at the time - it felt like maybe I would be doing it for both of us somehow (having an abortion), but I, like you, knew I just couldn't do it. Now that I look back, I realize he was asking me to snuff out the very existence of this precious human being to make HIS life easier. A horribly chilling thought. I would have lived with killing my child AND losing him. I can't imagine the emotional hell that would have been.

Anyway, as fate would have it, as I'm reading your message Harry Chapin's song, "Taxi" is playing the background. That song was one I specifically remember listening to while I was pregnant and trying to go to school (I got pregnant my freshman year of college at Univ. of Missouri- Kansas City. I finished that degree and ended up getting my masters, too! ;-)

So, listening to that song and reading about what you're going through...it's very powerful. I truly feel we are cross people's paths for a reason. I want you to know that I will help you in any way I can. What college/university are you going to? If they DON'T have daycare at the institution, we can work with Feminists for Life to try to help them get one started in time for you! (That's one of the goals Feminists for Life have - to make sure that ALL colleges and universities have daycare programs and support for pregnant and mothering students, since college students are the at the highest risk of abortion. There's been a 30% reduction in the number of abortions among college-age women since they started this outreach in 1994)

Take time to simply be by yourself and sense your prcious little one inside you. It is a very special time.

God bless you.

Sharon
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Lisa
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Date Posted: 11/23/06 2:41am

Hi SabrinaLee,

I did not see in your post how far along you are? I am sure that was one of the first things they told you. It appears from your post that the babys father mentioned you being less than 6 weeks, if so then you must have not had a first ultraound?

Well, keep on being positive. I did not get the morning sickness until I was about 8 weeks, but when I did, it was a doozy. It can cause weight loss initially. It did for me.

Come back and let us know how far along you are and how things are going. You have a lot of time to get things settled.

Sorry to hear about the babys dad's bad attitude. I hope he changes it. Glad to hear your Dad took the news well. It is hard to resist a grandchild!

Happy Thanksgiving!

Lisa
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Author:
Melanie
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Date Posted: 11/23/06 2:56am

I'm glad to hear that your appointment went well and that your father took the news well. Congratulations on telling your father and on your pregnancy, too! :)

It's always possible the baby's father could come around, sometimes they do, sometimes they don't. If he doesn't then it is his loss, imho.

Please do come back and keep us posted. :)



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