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Subject: Re: Thanks Author: Melanie [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 12/11/06 6:13pm In reply to: Mary 's message, "Thanks" on 12/11/06 11:07am Hi Mary, I have to echo what Luka is saying wholeheartedly, and she knows from experience what she is talking about! I just wanted to add something regarding your feeling that you have goals that having a child would thwart. All I can say is that it doesn't have to. Can it delay some things? Of course. If the goals are worthwhile, there is usually a way to make them happen even if you have to take a different route or more time. At any rate, goals can be adjusted. A life lost cannot again be regained. The apparent logic that says that the time isn't right for a child might make sense if the child did not yet exist. However, that is clearly not the case, and it is denial of that child's existence rather than logic that makes abortion seem such a logical decision right now. The premise is faulty if you start with the premise that there is no child. You know in your heart of hearts that something is there or you wouldn't be pregnant in the first place and this struggle would not exist. I hope this doesn't seem in any way harsh, as it isn't intended to be at all. I don't want to trivialize anything that you are going through or tell you that life will be a piece of cake from here on out. I can't make that promise. What I can tell you having gone through pregnancies with less than perfect timing, that many of the struggles were temporary. However, the best things in life, the best lessons I've learned all came about because I was a parent. I hope you won't deny yourself that opportunity. BTW, just because you are a single mom now doesn't mean you will never be find someone else to help you parent your child. There are a few ladies on here that can testify to that. :) Oh.. and I am really pretty good at writing novels, so please don't feel bad if you want to write pages. Write as much or as little as you need. If you need any help finding resources, I am happy to help. --Melanie [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]