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Subject: update Author: luka [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] Date Posted: 08/ 2/06 3:34am Well not much is happening..I am getting bigger slowly but it's funny i start off in the morning not looking very big but by the end of the day my stomach has doubled almost but then in the morning it's not as big again. I had more spotting over the weekend and panicked, i had finally relaxed about the diea of being pregnant and then all of a sudden i started to doubt the viabilty again. I ended up having a scan and all looked well they couldn't find where the bleeding is comming from, meanwhile i am still spotting. Movements are getting a little bit stronger & i am noticing them more regularly. I don't know when all of this is going to finally sink in you know, I know i am pregnant in one sense but i feel like i am in denial about it at the same time. I have never had this happen to me before and i don't quite understand it. I can see that it is irrational to have confirmation of your pregnancy and still feel like is it really there? I think i am still a little shell shocked by it, and a little bit scared. The passage of time and all that has happened in such a short period is overwhelming to me when i really think about it. So much is still uncertain for me on many levels i also wish i had a solid idea of how things are likely to go health wise. I feel fine at the moment, It's only when i have alot to do on a particular day that i come home and feel absolutely exhausted. I think i am having a girl baby :) I am not certain as yet but judging from the last scan it's looking that way. I will wait untill my morphology scan before i start buying pink things just in case. For now i am just trying to take it easy and eating well. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

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[> Subject: Re: update Author: Sharon [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08/ 3/06 7:00am Luka, I forget - how far along are you right now? I know that with my pregnancies, there was one where it just didn't feel like I was pregnant. It turns out I ended up miscarrying (which I certainly hope does not happen to you, but please know that IF it does, you will find compassionate support for your grief and consolation from the folks on this board!) They called the pregnancy a "blighted ovum", meaning it just wasn't developing as it should. That was within the first 3 months, though. I seem to remember you're farther along than that, right? The spotting would concern me, though. I know that with some women, they DO have some spotting during the pregnancy and everything is fine. But, be sure you keep the doctor appraised of any spotting - color, whether or not it's related to activity, etc. Take some deep breaths and take some time to literally put your feet up and just rest - even if it's only for a couple of minutes. I remember that just elevating my feet and conciously relaxing my shoulders helped ;-) Sharon P.S. What is a morphology scan?

[> [> Subject: Re: update Author: luka [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08/ 4/06 11:44pm Sharon, i'm 16 and a half weeks along. Definately not a blighted ovum allthough that was a concern that i had very early on. My baby is very well developed and moving around in there so i am not that worried. I see my doctor this week which will be good i will get to hear the babys heartbeat for the first time :) I suppose every pregnancy is different not just in terms of symptoms but of circumstance as well. I mean one minute i was thinking i was not even able to have more children and the next i am having a baby. It feels like a miracle , maybe thats why i am not so quick to relax about everything going smoothly. I told myself when i saw the heartbeat flashing away at 6 weeks i would relax but then i had more spotting.so then it became well i will be allright when i have passed the 12 week mark and seen the baby is ok on ultrasound. And i was for a while untill i had more spotting. Now i am looking forward to my 18/20 week morphology sono lol. I guess i can see why us pregnant folk are called ladies in waiting.. Oh and a morophology sono is pretty routine here its to check for structural abnormalities. I think it's considered a time in the babys development where most abnormalities will show up on ultrasound. I will be allowed to record the next scan also which is exciting.

[> [> [> Subject: Re: update Author: Melanie [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08/ 9/06 2:41am Hi Luka, I don't think your experience is so very uncommon. Sometimes it's just hard to relax. Maybe the ambiguity when you first found out has led to a concern and guilt, too, which can exacerbate those feelings. The ambiguity about early pregnancy is pretty common and normal as well, so I hope you don't have that going on. At 18/20 weeks, the odds are in your favor. I know the fears aren't always 100% rational, but I hope that helps. How often are you spotting? If it's not bright red and not a lot AND you have been spotting all along, it probably isn't too big a concern. I'm glad to hear all is healthy. I love looking at baby stuff.. especially all the baby girl stuff. Hopefully you can go shopping for some soon. :) --Melanie

[> Subject: Re: update Author: Heather [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08/ 3/06 9:14am Hi Luka, Sounds like a very human update. I can relate about the needing more time to process things that happen in life sometimes. I often feel like things happen in my own life, small and big, at a rate faster than I can fully process them and I am hurried along to then next happening. This applied to both good and difficult happenings. I used to journal quite a bit but now I am too busy even for that. I take solace in knowing that I will (most likely!) never be at a season in my life that I am as busy as I am now and it will give way to quieter ones where I'll have more time to reflect. In the meantime I'm storing up photos and memories. :) I think along with the difference in people's personalities is a distinction in how deep of a level they need to process things. You sound a lot like me. It's funny how different my husband and I are in this regard. He has a very laid back personality and needs very little processing time for anything. His strong faith that God is in control of things seems to translate into a consequent "whatever happens under the sun on this crazy earth happens, time to keep moving forward" outlook. To some extent some of this has rubbed off on me (at the very least it's been a healthy gift to our marriage to balance thinker.' out my tendency to 'brood') but I will always be a 'deeper processor' because that's how God made me. It comes with it's own gifts, a notable one being a natural inclination towards compassion and quickness to empathize with others on a very sincere level, which I've seen in your posts here, too. It probably has a lot to do with why you're a good mother, too. Interesting about your spotting. I'm glad you got the scan and a clean bill of health. I had spotting a lot in my last two pregnancies and the doctor's attributed it to placenta issues, but none that were a threat to the baby. Take Care Friend, Heather

[> Subject: Re: update Author: Lori [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08/ 5/06 12:21am Hi Luka, Thank you for the update. I myself experienced bleeding during my first pregnancy. I had a hematoma in my uterus, which is basically a blood clot that formed because the placenta pulled away from my uterus a little. This was very uncomfortable and I experienced bleeding and spotting for almost two months, but my little guy was completely healthy. Bleeding during pregnancy is never normal but however it can be quite common in the early months but since you have a doctor looking into this I'm sure everything will be okay just take it easy and don't over do it. Get plenty of rest and take your vitamins. If you notice that the spotting comes after you have been very busy, then slow down and put your feet up. I bet your so excited about the ultrasound. I know that was my favorite part of both of my pregnancies. I couldn't wait to see what my babies looked like and whether they were a boy or a girl. And of course the reassurance that the babies were healthy really took a load off. I think every mom wants to make sure that her babies are healthy and that is what makes you a mom. That part of always being concerned about your child will never end, this is just the beginning =) I look forward to hearing more from you, please keep us updated! I'm praying for you. GOd Bless, Lori

[> [> Subject: Re: update Author: luka [ Edit | View ] Date Posted: 08/14/06 2:02am Only a couple more days until my ultrasound :) I am hoping that the baby is a girl on this scan too. I couldn't help myself i bought the cutest little pink baby girl outfit the other day with a little hat with Giraffe ears on it lol. If it's a boy that's ok too :) I just love all the pretty little girls things, it's so much fun shopping for girls. I got some firm kicks today in the belly while i was driving she (or he) kicked me right where my seat belt was lol. How is everyone else going on here -the pregnant and the non pregnant ladies?