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Subject: Re: Please help me and my kids


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Sharon
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Date Posted: 04/ 2/10 6:52am
In reply to: Terrah 's message, "Re: Please help me and my kids" on 04/ 1/10 1:26pm

Terrah,

Don't be too hard on yourself about having thought about abortion. I, too, considered abortion when I first found I was pregnant years ago. And, I'd always considered myself pro-life and had thought I'd never have an abortion. I, thank God, chose to NOT abort. Instead of feeling "guilty" I've chose to feel "grateful"! That's a much more positive way to look at it, I figure, than to beat myself up about having considered something when I was scared and confused.

You're in my prayers.

Sharon

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Pat
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Date Posted: 04/ 2/10 10:42am

Hello, Terrah,

That is excellent news!

There are natural remedies for MS, and you may find it beneficial to learn about them and try some of them. One of my favorite web sites that discusses natural remedies is drmercola.com . I seem to recall that he talks about MS. He has a good search engine.

It usually takes awhile for us to figure out what God is up to, and even then, we don't entirely know. But I have found that lessons learned during times of hardship are often very useful later in life. I didn't know why God gave me our youngest child. I sure didn't want to be pregnant! What I didn't know at the time, is that among other things, this child would take care of my mother-in-law during her last year of life so that in the end, she would come to Christ. I also have learned that sometimes people mistakenly think they are saved, and sometimes they deliberately deceive. I was a person who married a man I thought had accepted Christ. He thought so, too. He did live a moral life. But for other reasons, it made life difficult for many years, but in the end, I am happy to report that he really did, it totally changed things (starting a little while beforehand), and was also a factor in my MIL coming to Christ (because otherwise, I wouldn't have known her).

God also sometimes gives us children to call us to greater maturity, and to remind us we are grass, and need to depend on Him. I've walked in your shoes. There was a time when someone tried to deceive and coerce me into an abortion, and I almost caved in. I felt exactly the same way you do, when I found out. I shouldn't have yielded to fear. Sometimes we tend to forget we are sinners.

Don't dwell on what your ex promises. Leave him be. Let him work out his own misbehavior. He needs to face God as well, so stay out of the way, and let God deal with him. You can tell him that he hasn't given you any reasons to trust him, and that will have to change before you will even talk about it. That means he has to stop spending time with the other woman. He has a duty to provide for his other child, and that would cost you if you two got back together. Or, he can choose to sever his parental rights and give her sole custody. She stole something that belonged to you: your husband. It's a tough question because of the innocent child involved. So give it a lot of thought, and don't do anything hasty.

We'd love to continue to hear from you. Please take care!

Hugs,
Pat

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