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Date Posted: 10:49:47 05/25/02 Sat
Author: Cari
Subject: Sometimes it is hard to figure
In reply to: qwert 's message, "Hi!" on 20:37:26 05/24/02 Fri

Some people's aversion to communication and how that fits into their view of friendship or affection. None of my brother's like to write or call on the phone, but the brother I was closest to as a child is the absolute worst of the bunch. The rest will force themselves to call, write or come once in a while and are very loving, helpful and thoughtful when we are together.

This third one just can't be bothered with the tedium of communicating. When he's around he is loving and pleasant but never helpful. He prefers I wait on him. When he was in the service, I once wrote 15 letters without a reply. He can go years without calling or writing, although we get along great at family gatherings and he is always receptive to my calls and letters. He said to me once when I was beefing at him about it that even if he didn't call or write for 5 years, it didn't mean he didn't love me. Afterall, he sees me at weddings and funerals and such, and I call and write HIM.

This last year, I've sent him 5 emails without an answer. When I talked to him on the phone last, we laughed, joked and he acted like we saw each other once a week or something. He has no idea how much his attitude hurts. I could just wring his neck! He's about the same with the other two brothers and not much better with mom. I don't know what it is. He acts like his fingers might fall off if he picked a pen or pencil to write a letter or punched the keys on a telephone or computer.

So don't take it personally, I think failure to communicate is a common guy thing.

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