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Date Posted: 16:03:39 09/14/03 Sun
Author: SYNTARSUS
Subject: Re: Gender roles in viewing
In reply to: Jonathan (admin) 's message, "Re: Gender roles in viewing" on 21:17:47 09/09/03 Tue

>Men and women are both humans, we have considerably
>more in common than we have differences, people forget
>that.

Right on, Jonathan! I couldn't have said it better myself!

I do think that people can get so caught up in our differences that we tend not to think about what we have in common. I think this is stupid. Instead of focusing so much time on exaggerating our differences, we should put more emphasis on what is similar about us. I often found that in churches that I've been to, the preacher will emphasize the division of gender, and I think this has made it difficult for both sexes to try and understand each other because they spend so much time trying to be so different from one another; as if the issue (or what they have made into a big issue) must be completely black & white. But it's not quite like they'd want everything to be . . . so neatly catagorized. This reminds me of how psychologists attempt label their patients into neat catagories of psychological abnormailties. Such DSM labelling doesn't really work all that well as I have seen. In fact, it often only makes for more confusion and misery on the patient and all the rest of those involved.

I thought it was interesting about what you said here:

>I think there is a tendency among some women to try to
>act tough, in a way that isn't even natural for men.
>Ironically they may simultaneously complain that men
>are too tough. To me it's very interesting.
>Unfortunately it seems like so many values are
>forgotten if you can't put a price tag on them; so now
>women are trying to be tough and competitive because
>they believe it will help them compete with men,
>though this is only valuable for making money.
>Unfortunately in many other, almost entirely forgotten
>parts of life it's only a hinderance, and makes them
>the same bumbling monstrosities that they criticize
>men for becoming.

You're right, we don't need anymore 'bumbling monstrosities'. What we really need to do is just to be who we are and not try to be someone that (as individuals) we definately are not, just because society tells us - based on stereotypes - that this is how we all have to be. I think some competition is always good. It can be fun (like playing chess, checkers, running a race, etc.) and healthy. It also gives us a goal to strive for in life and can help to unleash our creativity. It can also make us better people ("I'm going to be the best mother/ father that I can be," "I want to be a better student than I was before," etc.). But too much competition can be dangerous, so we must strike a balance. Too little competition makes us lazy, ignorant, and cuts us adrift without any goals for the future. Too much competition can make us prideful, greedy, angry & frusterated. I think we should strive for a balance in everything that endevour.

I also do think that it's good to have role models, but that we should choose wisely based on that person's values & character.

~ SYNTARSUS

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