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Date Posted: 18:49:13 10/21/08 Tue
Author: Amy (DEPRESSED to say the least)
Subject: Single mom of 3, 2 of us disabled in DIRE NEED please HELP f

My name is Amy live in Elkin, NC with my 3 daughters who are 17, 14, and 8 years old. The 14 year old has several disabilities and I too suffer from several mental problems. My 14 year old daughter receives SSI of 597.00 a month and right now this is our only means of income and things here, needless to say, are very difficult to say the least. I too have applied for disability for myself but so far I have been denied and my case is now in appeals. I have severe depression, anxiety and stress disorder, I have also a disorder called post traumatic stress and social phobia, and as well I am bi polar. My daughter, as well as I, takes daily medications but so far to date, my mental issues seem to not be responding very well at all to the medications I am on which makes it impossible for me to work. Along with my mental issues I was involved in a very bad car accident in which I totaled a car hitting a tree head on. I was lucky to come out alive as they told me but luckily I came out with only 2 broken neck bones and 2 broken ribs. That was last year and I have been in severe pain ever since then. Now, every day is a constant terrible struggle to me. I have great difficulty from just day to day and my quality of life as well as my 14 year olds is very poor. With all the difficulties of my condition coupled with the horrible stress of having such a very low income and on top of that raising my girls alone with no help, makes it extremely hard on me. I struggle very much and day to day life for me is such a hard and huge task. I also am dealing with my 14 year olds health issues which add to my load and most days I do good to even get myself up out of bed. My depression is awful and the stress of just day to day living makes my life very hard and every day is a true battle. Of the four of us, we are all students and two of us take courses online. Elkin, where we live, is a very small town and very rural with very little to offer in the job market. The fact that we are so small makes it virtually impossible to locate a job, at least one that has decent pay. Thus forcing me to have to commute to the nearest big city which for me is Winston-Salem. From here to Winston is almost an hour’s driven and with gas prices as they are presently, I can not/could not afford even the gasoline to go out to look for work, much less interviews etc. Which unfortunately leaves me in a catch 22? On a daily basis I feel awful and feel doomed or stuck. I have my girls only and no husband nor any family to lean on. I am literally alone in every aspect of my life. I have no support of any sort and am very dire need financially. Right now I am 2 months behind on my rent, and every other bill I am one month behind. On a monthly basis I “rob Peter to pay Paul” and now it has caught up with me. Every month it is the same battle for us. With us living on a mere 597.00 income makes it impossible to pay the bills. I get food stamps too and they never last the whole month and for example right now, we have no food hardly at all in the house and unless something gives a little, we will literally go hungry and that is how it goes every month. The same goes for the bills. Each month we skip one thing to pay another, then the next month I have to pay the bills again the same way, paying one while putting off another and that is my miserable existence. Now that school is starting up again none of my girls have clothing, nor do they have supplies. My girls are not into material things as they have become accustomed to living in poverty and never having nice things that they so very much deserve. My girls are great girls and listen to me and we are very close and they have respect for me and for each other. They work hard here in the house and do chores and cook and clean. They are very good nice girls who work hard and so deserve a break. But right now I have not a dollar to my name and again, we will later literally go hungry.



I have worked all my life until the year of 2000. I was married at the time and everything was great. It seemed the world was at my feet. Both of us were working and I became pregnant. My husband was a traditional type husband and insisted that I stay out of work when our last daughter was born. During the pregnancy I had several complications and it was also a very difficult birth. Both my infant and I went through some really difficult health issues so the decision to stop working and stay at home and raise my smallest child was logical. During the time that I was staying at home mom, I also decided to return to school and further pursue a bachelor’s degree. I did not waste any time during that period of being a stay at home mom; I went back to school and did get my bachelors degree. During this period was when the father of the children decided he did not want the role of husband/father anymore so he left us and to date does not pay his child support. He is something like twelve thousand I believe it is, behind on child support and we, in the meantime, suffer miserably. The time I took off to raise my last daughter was a decision I made at the time seemed like the right thing to do but now looking back, the time went so very fast. Days turned into weeks, weeks into months, and months into years until now it has been eight years and now are haunting me as eight years is a long stretch of time to be out of the job market.



I have applied for jobs, gotten interviews, but no offers. I believe that a lot of the reason is due to the fact that I did stay home too long. Now it must look suspicious that that stretch of time was spent at home and I guess some people don’t have the same traditional ideals as others, I am firm believer in God and I feel that it has not been his will for me yet to find a job. Perhaps there is a special job out there for me or a special time. Only God knows why I have not been able to find work. I strongly feel that at this present time I am not mentally able to cope and physically I am not over the accident anyway. However I am raising a family alone and on a very low income and am in dire need of help. I am hoping that you can understand the dilemma I am in and will be able to help me and my girls. Someone told me that your program is able to help out families that suffer with disabilities. I really am in dire need and do not have any where to turn to. Please can you help us at all? I am a member of church but when I asked my pastor for help, he said that right now there are no funds available. We are very small church. Do you have any type of programs for any of our situation? Scholarships for school would be wonderful too. I am seriously looking into graduate school and I have a daughter in community college too. We both can use scholarships. I REALLY REALLY need financial help paying my rent especially I am about to be put out. Groceries would be a god send too if you can help with that would be wonderful. Another biggie I have looked for help with is the GMAT exam. In order for me to get into graduate school, I have to take the GMAT exam and pass it. Unfortunately it costs 250.00 and that has to be paid by the student (me). The school will not pay for it. I have to. Any help you can help me with would be greatly appreciated and needed. Also my daughters all are in dire need of clothes and supplies for going back to school, and also our car is in DIRE need of brakes, rotors, tires, and alighnment as well as an inspection sticker (ran out in July). I know I ask for a lot but believe me; ten dollars to me right now would be like a thousand. I have zero!!! I know that you may find this hard to believe but so help me God, I have nothing. Not a dollar do I have to my name, and I pray to God that you will and can help us. I know that God will touch your heart as you read this email and he will help you to see and understand my situation and that you will help us. Thanks so much for taking the time to read this email, I am sorry it is so long but I wanted to tell you all about my family and the situation we are in so that you could try to understand better. Thanks and God bless Amy in Elkin

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