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Date Posted: 10:59:57 08/26/02 Mon
Author: Cally Enochs
Subject: Re: Topic 3--According to McCroskey (p. 34), Communication is simply a tool---describe...
In reply to: Dianne Ensminger 's message, "Re: Topic 3--According to McCroskey (p. 34), Communication is simply a tool---describe..." on 13:12:56 08/25/02 Sun

>>If communication is simply a tool, according to
>>McCroskey, how do we feel when the tool is used to
>>cause ill? What happens when we rhetorically
>>communicate to cheat or hurt or take from someone
>>else? Can we, through an understanding of
>>communication, begin to craft our messages to others
>>for conflict resolution instead of creating more
>>conflict?
>
>I have been at the receiving end of communication
>being used to cause ill, and to cheat and hurt someone
>else, and I can tell you that it is very damaging. We
>never know when we communicate with someone just how
>we may come across unless we are very diligent in our
>pursuit of truly understanding who we are talking too.
> I wish that everyone could pay attention to what they
>are saying, how it is being said and in what context.
>If people, particularly people in power, really paid
>attention to what they were saying, plan so that the
>context of their message was delivered in a manner
>that was beneficial instead of harmful we could
>possibly experience so much more in our lives and with
>other people. I always try, am not always successful,
>but I always try to understand how someone might
>perceive what I am saying. I can not imagine ever
>being in a position where I would want to cheat, hurt
>or take something from someone but I have been on the
>receiving end of those tactics. To say that it does
>great damage is an understatement. If we were to
>realize that something we said to someone might
>possibly stay with that other person for years to
>come, might possibly create a hurt so deep that they
>could not begin to know how to get around it, would we
>not then rethink what we were saying? To communicate
>for the sake of being mean or evil is one of the most
>cruel things anyone can do. I do believe that we can
>craft our messages so that we are working towards
>conflict resolution and as Nelson said, personal
>communication instead of written or media
>communication is the best way to obtain concensus and
>to eliminate harmful situations.

Dianne
I agree, if we don't think before we speak it is hurtful. I also agree that it is important to know who you are speaking to. Some people have soft feelings that you must really tip toe around, and others are so sarcastic that its imporant that you keep them on the same line of thought you are on.
Yes, if I knew I said something that may be hurtful to a person for years to come, I would wish to rethink what I said to try to make it right.

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  • Re: Topic 3--According to McCroskey (p. 34), Communication is simply a tool---describe... -- Kiesha Elix, 19:22:26 08/26/02 Mon
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