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Subject: Re: Sad Grandmother

Author:
Shari

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Date Posted: 15:37:43 03/11/07 Sun
In reply to: Lucy 's message, "Re: Sad Grandmother" on 11:43:16 03/10/07 Sat

What I am about to say is my personal opinion only. I am not a counselor, nor am I an expert in any field (aside from being the wife of an addict).

Nancy and the baby's father are very aware that their son is in the system. They as responsible parents should be letting the system know their whereabouts. Nancy is an adult.

You will have it much easier if you let the system do their job, and you do your job with regard to your grandson. Your priority now is his wellbeing. It is not your responsibility to make sure that Nancy knows what is happening with her son until he is in your custody. She knows where he is, and isn't doing her job as a parent because her priority is herself.

Yes, I know...as a parent, it is hard to stop mothering your children at any age. It might be easier to view it in the manner that the Nancy that is running around in your daughter's body is not the person you raised. The drug has taken over. When she gets clean (notice I said when, not if), she will be your daughter again. Believe and have faith that God will guide her in that direction.

With regard to court....I'm betting she doesn't show for court. If she does, she violated her probation or whatever they are calling it by not finishing the rehab. It is very likely that she will do some jail time.

Jail time is not a bad thing for an addict. It gives them the opportunity to get cleaned up usually. Jail is the rock bottom for some. For others it takes more.

The problem with court ordered rehab is that the addict is forced to go. When they are forced, it is not their decision, and usually it won't do them any good at all. An addict has to be the one to choose to stop in order for the possibility of recovery.

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Re: Sad Grandmother	Heather	21:06:58 03/11/07 Sun