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Subject: Re: wants help, now what?

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Heather

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Date Posted: 09:21:41 11/20/06 Mon
In reply to: Hulalea 's message, "Re: wants help, now what?" on 22:24:41 11/19/06 Sun

Thanks Hula. I knew there was more that could be said to explain what I was saying. =)

You know my ex is in rehab now and it wasn't his choice. It was because he was threatened to lose his comfort. An addict can stay clean to try to prove to someone whatever they are trying to prove, but in the end they go back unless it's something they want for their lives. My ex is not humble, he is not remorseful at all. HE is in rehab and he is very arrogant. Won't say sorry, continued to say one thing and do another and that hurt my little boy again. I take blame for allowing it. I think you get to a point where it will all make you so sick that you decide to walk away and turn your back. Your heart always has this soft spot for the one you loved, but being that they are not even close to what you used to love, it makes it easier. I had to be emotionally abused for years and it has taken me to see my little one get older and to see the cycle played on him and see how hurt he was and is. He will get over it again but it will take some time. I can't stand to see my little boy upset and hurting because I know exactly what he feels. It is not fun. These addicts will try anthing too. He decided to give me some money. I guess I made him feel guilty enough. Anyhow, he had money for me but wanted to drop it off and wanted me to cook him food cause he was hungry. I said NO. As much as I needed that money for groceris and clothes and shoes for my boys, I refused to see him because I knew exactly what would happen. I would fall for his cycle of hell again and end up crying more and hurting and confusing my boys again. I told him if he shows up the police will be right behind him. He mailed the money to me. Let's see if he continues it. I don't think he will cause money is precious to an addict. I have changed my phone numbers again and this is the real deal this time. I know I cannot let the manipulation back in. I see the potential damage it could do to my little one and I am not allowing it. He is sick and I want him nowhere around us. He has already hurt us badly and I will not stand by and watch anymore. Yes of course I have to fake it til I make it, but I get better at it all the time. I'm happy to have gotten as far away from him as I have. I am doing good for my kids and me.
I pray for everything I need. ANd it works.
Hope this helps someone.
Heather

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Subject	Author	Date
Re: wants help, now what?	Hulalea	11:14:00 11/20/06 Mon
Re: wants help, now what? -- Heather, 14:41:15 11/20/06 Mon