Re: Same old story -- METH HELP FOR FAMILIES

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Subject: Re: Same old story

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Date Posted: 07:01:59 12/04/06 Mon
In reply to: Lisa 's message, "Same old story" on 03:41:46 12/01/06 Fri

Lisa,

I am also raising a grandchild. My daughter started doing meth when her baby was around a year old. We ended up getting emergency custody because my daughter refused to keep her safe. That was two years ago and now we have adopted her because in my opionion an addict can take forever to get clean and stay clean. Their children go through hell with the ups and downs and I just don't see why any child should have to go through that.

I don't know how long you daughter has been using or how many times she has already messed up but your grandchild deserves to live a stable life. 10 months is a long time for a two year old to be without a mother and more then likely your grandchild will bond with you.

It was a hard choice for me to make but I gave my daughter a year to clean up and get her life in order. When she went without paying childsupport for a year my husband and I decided to take the steps to adopt. In the end my daughter decided to sign over rights because she realized that she wasn't ready to be a mom and that her daughter had bonded to us and it would tear her up to take her away from us. Things are really still bumpy between us but my daughter knows that I still love her and that I will be there for her when she is ready to really clean up her life but until then she is on her own.

Legally you need to be responsible for your grandchild so you can keep him/her safe. Also there are many programs out there that can provide help for you to raise your grandchild.

It is a long hard road but I would not have done anything different because my granddaughter/daughter now is worth every heartache that I have been through. No child deserves to be put on the back shelf and that is exactly what happens to them when they have addicts for parents. The parents expect the child to just wait until they are ready to get clean and be a parent, but truth is the child grows up before that happens.

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