Re: Who knew the Holidays would be this hard -- METH HELP FOR FAMILIES

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Subject: Re: Who knew the Holidays would be this hard

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Shelly

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Date Posted: 22:20:48 12/24/06 Sun
In reply to: Heather 's message, "Who knew the Holidays would be this hard" on 10:26:40 12/24/06 Sun

Heather, Holidays can be difficult period -especially as single moms -never mind the guilt and sorrow we can feel regarding our childrens fathers and their decisions that have hurt our babies. I feel it daily,sometimes multiple times a day -but then the holidays as single mom's bring up normal feelings of aloneness and sadness for where we wish our lives were, for ourselves and for our children. I have been having a rough time this season too as last year my daughter and I spent it with her dad and his family and at that time I truly believed that he and I would end up together again and we would be a family -something that may have happened if he had not chosen crystal meth over everything else in his life. SO -this year is not just difficult for me, but also for my daughter as she is well aware that her dad is not around this Christmas -something that made me overcompinsate by buying her more gifts than I could afford and feeling guilt over even bringing her into this world with a man that ultimately hurt her. Lots of pain -lots of sorrow-lots of lonliness! The one thing that I can say is that one day our children will understand that WE were the ones by their side through thick and thin-WE were not the ones who abandoned them -WE were their safe haven and love and guidence. WE will be there with them through thier ups and downs, graduations, marriage, children, growing up -these fathers who chose drugs over them will not be and it it THEIR LOSE b/c of their selfishness! Don't be sad -be proud of what a fantastic mother you are despite all obstacles -be proud that you are not a woman who stayed with a drug addict just to say your married -be proud you let him go to keep your children safe -be proud that you are strong and loving and have amazing children who love you!
Celebrate all that Jesus is in you! There is a lot to celebrate -take this holiday to celebrate all your accomplishments and what a wonderful and caring mother you are! These men are weak -we are strong and know it! Be happy for our strength, wisdom, and love that we give each and every day!
It's a new year coming up. Time to make positive changes within ourselves and our lives. We can not control others, only ourselves...so let's move forward and continue to be the strong women we are and love and protect our children as we have -and be PROUD of it!!!
Merry Christmas!!

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Re: Who knew the Holidays would be this hard	Heather	00:09:11 12/25/06 Mon