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Subject: Re: husband is a user

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Heather

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Date Posted: 10:56:23 08/15/06 Tue
In reply to: Shelly 's message, "Re: husband is a user" on 16:17:46 08/14/06 Mon

Gina, I am sorry also that you have to go through this. And that 4 more children have to deal with a parent on drugs. It is not healthy for you or the kids to be involved with him. It is better to cut him loose now than to find out the hard way like most of us have. I'm not saying that he will never be clean again , but isn't it better if he proves it first before coming and going and breaking the hearts of your precious children over and over? I have a five year old son with my ex soon to be ex husband and I guess you can say I have allowed him to come in and out of our lives and it has done so much damage..........so much. So please take my advice. Don't let him come back until he proves to you he is clean and can be the family man you and the kids need. otherwise move on with your life and take care of those kids.
I wouldn't even let him be around you and them. It really isn't healthy. My ex is clean off of meth now but is drinking and still hasn't got a clue. He wants me back so he says when he finds out I am dating someone else, but when I say ok lets do this- he runs. Its actually funny to me now. Everytime he says stuff, I say ok and get rid of him for a little while longer. =)
It is a huge game to them and you need to make sure you don't play it because it is hard to stop the insanity once you have let it in. You know now so there is no excuse. He needs rehab to learn why he uses and to get the information on how he can stop using. It will be up to HIM to stop using and no one can control him or his choices. SO don't even try at all. I tryed to play God for a long time and I would get involved in everything just to make things harder for him. It doesn't change a thing, it just made my stress level worse. It's time for you to make a choice.
read the Helpful Tips and talk to everyone you can about this and get advice from here and from family.etc...It will help.
I will be praying for your family,
Heather

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