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Subject: Re: Please help

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Hulalea

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Date Posted: 01:25:25 04/02/06 Sun
In reply to: Donna 's message, "Please help" on 19:24:38 04/01/06 Sat

Donna,
I'm sorry for what you're going through. I know it's huge slam on the heart and mind for you. I went through the same thing with my ex and listened to all of the lies, manipulation and justification until it took me down, too.
I was in deep insanity yet I wasn't even using drugs. I drank a lot and did things that I regret doing now like neglecting my kids by having grandma stay with them every other Saturday night so I could go out with friends and get drunk to help numb my pain (they were teenagers already). Not only did the pain get worse, our lives got tougher with my ex's antics and nothing was changing. I had to detach for mine and my kid's sake and realized that I could not "support" him or help him. We went through the whole TRO thing, etc. and finally 2 months after I divorced him, he hit his bottom and admitted himself into intensive outpatient treatment for 18 months. He has since told me that had I kept "helping" him and listening to him or even being there for him, I would have helped to kill him. What changed for me was that I realized I was powerless and needed Jesus in my life. The peace that He gave me brought so much strength and guidance like I never thought possible. I need Him everyday and He never fails me. Peace is the most valuable thing that we can have when this insanity of the devil's drug has taken our family members over. Stop the insanity by detaching because your husband is too sick to and self-centered to care. If you lose everything, he'll just go somewhere else to get high.
No one will take care of your children. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks or if they're in denial - that burden is too much for you to carry right now. Just take care of yourself and your children and get away with whatever you have or can. Read the helpful tips here and keep coming back, you are not alone. I will pray for you.
God Be with you,
Hulalea

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Re: Please help	SUSAN F	21:26:57 04/02/06 Sun