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Date Posted: 17:27:29 04/04/06 Tue
In reply to:
denise
's message, "is it real" on 16:04:14 04/04/06 Tue
You can go with him. That choice is yours to make if your heart can handle it? Most addicts want to quit but never do, some die while they are preparing to quit. Remember Feelings are not Fact. He may be just going through his crashing cycle. Do NOT get your hopes up. As far as trust, I always say give it a year of normal behavior until I can start to trust again. Good Luck.
From The Helpful Tips:
* THIS IS THE CYCLES THAT LET PEOPLE KNOW WHY THEY DO WHAT THEY DO WEEK IN AND WEEK OUT. Good Luck.
CYCLES, BY DOUG.
Cycles
Hi, everyone. I want to share this information; as to help you understand your loved one who is addicted to meth. Meth users have a pattern cycle that is constantly repeated during their use. It goes like this:
1) CRAVING: during this time, the user can think of nothing else. Their every moment is consumed by the thought of using.
2) SEARCH AND OBTAIN: during this period, the meth user is on a mission. The maintain objective is to gain access to meth. This may be done by seeking "so called" friends whom they know has some meth, either for them to purchase, or to share some with them. The search is a crucial part of the cycle. For the loved one of the meth user, this is a painful period, as there is much deceit and the promises that they might stay home this time are all but crushed.
3) THE USE: whether it is snorting, smoking, injecting or digesting, this is finally the satisfaction of the "craving". This period of time 'speaks for itself' and is the ultimate reason this cycle will continue to repeat itself.
4) COMING DOWN: Meth use, more than any other drug, is very demanding on the physical and mental stability of a person. In the beginning of coming down, the user is very unstable, and starting to think about "the ones they love" who DO NOT USE. THEY FEEL REMORSE AND REGRET. They also will say at this time: "I'LL NEVER USE THAT SHIT AGAIN!!" They will also seek out those who truly love them, seeking support and understanding. For the LOVED ONES OF THE USER, this is a difficult time, as we have hope that they are genuine, and truly want help. We take them back, we give them love, and we care for them, letting down our defenses. We are just happy to have them home.
5) EVERYONE NEEDS REST AT SOME POINT! And sleep they will do! Sleep and sleep and sleep. They will ask for our support and understanding during this period. Excuses abound! They will want us to be their personal assistants...first of allow, allowing them to sleep. Maybe bring them something to eat. This is a time when the meth user has NO THOUGHTS OF USE, and it is a time when the "Loved Ones OF The Meth User" have their most hope. We are just so happy to have them home. And we pray they will stay RIGHT HERE. We will do anything to have them back, and we usually do.
BUT! THE PROBLEM IS........we have just completed our cycle. The cycle will return, with the very strong...very "LOUD CALLING" cravings. The cravings are the beginning of the cycle, and surely will repeat themselves over and over and over and over.
BREAKING THE CYCLE has to be done at some point in their life. This can only be accomplished by the meth user. The "love one of the meth user" can only stand by and watch
.... And PRAY. I HAVE SAID THIS MANY TIMES: THE ONLY THING THAT WORKS IS PRAYER. Your only recourse, albeit a powerful one.
THE CYCLE CAN BE BROKEN, but it takes true desire to have a normal life again. A meth user knows very well that their life is not normal. As much as they may wish to quit the cycle, they have to find the POWER within them to do so. And, it is possible to break that cycle.... I know. It's been more than 3 years now since I did it. Today, those cravings are a mere memory. I have won. How do I stay off meth?? I LOVE MY FAMILY...that is MY STAYING POWER. MY real friends have taken me back. I have NO IDEA where my "meth friends" are today, and have no wish to know their whereabouts. I Thank God everyday for restoring my life, and giving me true happiness once again. For all of you, I pray for the same results I have been blessed with. God Help You All in your search for sanity in this insane world of "evilness called meth".
Doug.
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