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Subject: Re: why?

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Emily

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Date Posted: 18:25:40 01/02/03 Thu
In reply to: Cecil 's message, "why?" on 21:50:16 10/01/02 Tue

I think there is a big difference between girls who go for the 'player' type guy who treats them badly and ignores them and the girls who are with men who physically abuse them. Clearly someone can be abused mentally/emotionally and that is a huge problem, but I think the motives are often different in the two case. (and in terms of physical abuse - that is out of my range of experience)

Not to say that this is true in every case, but it seems to me that a lot of girls want to change a guy into what they want them to be and the idea of transforming a 'bad' guy into something better can be very appealing. Sometimes a challenge is appealing.

Also often these men exude confidence and confidence is sexy, plain and simple. I know a good number of nice guys who have success with girls-- and they have success because they have confidence and don't let people walk all over them.

In my opinion, one reason why girls don't go for the overly nice/lets people walk all over them guys is they are afraid to hurt them and tend to see them more as friends.

** clearly though--every case is different-- and I am just speaking from my experience in what I have seen -- I hope this was mildly helpful

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Re: why?	Rita	20:11:07 08/30/03 Sat