VoyForums
[ Show ]
Support VoyForums
[ Shrink ]
VoyForums Announcement: Programming and providing support for this service has been a labor of love since 1997. We are one of the few services online who values our users' privacy, and have never sold your information. We have even fought hard to defend your privacy in legal cases; however, we've done it with almost no financial support -- paying out of pocket to continue providing the service. Due to the issues imposed on us by advertisers, we also stopped hosting most ads on the forums many years ago. We hope you appreciate our efforts.

Show your support by donating any amount. (Note: We are still technically a for-profit company, so your contribution is not tax-deductible.) PayPal Acct: Feedback:

Donate to VoyForums (PayPal):

[ Login ] [ Contact Forum Admin ] [ Main index ] [ Post a new message ] [ Search | Check update time | Archives: 1, 2, 3, [4] ]

[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

Date Posted: 08:22:36 11/19/02 Tue
Author: Angeleyes
Subject: more thoughts to this....
In reply to: livjoy 's message, "some thoughts" on 07:28:16 11/18/02 Mon

Maize, sad to hear about your bad experiences with forums. I am here to find people like you in particular, people who are not afraid to fully share. I know about the experiences Livjoy had, because I know her in person. We met on that board, and we became very good friends. Later on we also met in person. I am so very thankful for this! It was worth the trouble we had on the board. I found a good friend whom I will have for the rest of my life.

On a note: I donīt recognize your style of writing either, so I donīt think we have ever been on the same board.

Livjoy and I are looking for people who are over the superficial opinion that someone who has something interesting to share is arrogant or on an ego-trip. I donīt take things personal either, unless someone blames me directly or is offending. In that case I try to explain how I meant it, and if necessary, I simply leave. Some people donīt WANT to see the truth, so its better to go.

I too sound a little harsh sometimes. So far Livjoy was the only one who understood me.
If she is depressed and I come up with something that hits the nail, she looks at it from all aspects and either puts it aside for later use, or tries to work with it. No matter if it had hurt or not. She sees the message before she gets offended. If she feels attact, she lets me know and I apologize. I KNOW we canīt really offend each other, because we both know the other one is not here to hurt, but to present a different view to the matter.
This is a basis I would love to have with others as well. Unfortunatelly most people I know are either telling me I am arrogant, or they get personally offended, or they ignore me.
I also have people being jealous, because I too love my life, create my own happiness, and am not stuck in self-pity and negativity. Unhappy people just canīt stand it.*g*

It seems to be difficult to find people who are open enough to allow others their own point of view, and even their happiness. I like to get advice and input from others. Often enough I havenīt even thought in that direction someone else did, so his opinion was very helpful. At other times people cannot really help me to understand something, but then to type the question and thinking about can be helpful enough. It helps me to straighten the knots in my thoughts.

I hope you will get back to the old openess. I think there are people out there who will understand you the right way, who will like you as you are, reading your posts without personal judgement. At least I will do so.

Love and Light,
Angeleyes

[ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ]

[ Contact Forum Admin ]

Forum timezone: GMT-8
VF Version: 3.00b, ConfDB:
Before posting please read our privacy policy.
VoyForums(tm) is a Free Service from Voyager Info-Systems.
Copyright © 1998-2019 Voyager Info-Systems. All Rights Reserved.