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Subject: Re: how can you say that?

Author:
Eugene

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Date Posted: 22:24:39 03/31/03 Mon
In reply to: skeptical 's message, "how can you say that?" on 11:07:33 03/31/03 Mon

First of all, let me say that I am not writing from a judgemental point of view. I'd rather think that I can identify with everything that my friend has been doing, because I have gone through them all. If my words make you depressed and offended, I apologize.

I used to think that love can overcome everything. In fact, I still believe it. The difficulty is in acknowledging what true love is. When a person with serious broken boundary issues looks for another person to feel "complete", that is not love. When a person seeks out an obviously problematic other in order to feel like a helper, or even healer, that is not love either.

No one is perfect, and it doesn't take perfect persons to maintain loving, growing relationships. Yet you have to admit that the "not-ready-for-healthy-relationship" people are sometimes very, very easy to spot.

It takes a proud person to insist on doing the impossible. I was that cocky once. I have since been humbled. I wish I had known that I was in no shape to handle a relationship before all the damage I caused.

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Subject	Author	Date
Re: how can you say that?	sWoOs	20:40:24 04/01/03 Tue

Re: how can you say that?	sWoOsH	20:46:57 04/01/03 Tue
Re: how can you say that? -- Eugene, 11:45:24 04/03/03 Thu