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Date Posted: Friday, January 13, 08:54:02am
Author: Nell
Subject: Oh, they do have far worse crimes on their hands (r)
In reply to: JayBee 's message, "Well, I guess what I wanted to convey (r)" on Thursday, January 12, 05:04:38pm

What I thought was interesting though, especially in the essay and comments about BBM, about adultery is that it is such a personal assault to the one being cheated on.

"I tricked you so I could bring down your father, a terrible criminal whom you didn't know anyway" is a horrible - but perhaps justifiable act. (I have a whole long essay in my head about the importance of consent here).

"I seduced you, married you, invited you to love me, claimed to love you, fathered your child, and lied to you about who I am and who I loved, and either directly or indirectly promised you fidelty that I never meant to keep."

Is there any justification for that? Or is that, in itself, regardless of context, a horrible act? A sin, if you want to use that language?

And from Elena's POV - who is to say which assualt will weigh heavist? That her marriage was a 'trick' to bring down her father? Or that the man whom she believed loved her and was faithful to her, and whom she loved and was faithful to in return, neither loved her nor was faithful to her?

In some ways - even if you want to argue with her about her priorities - I can see the second assualt on Elena's dignity and sense of self as being just as, if not more, grievous than the first.

I do think, btw, that canon made it pretty clear that awareness of the second issue did keep MIchael up at night, which is part of what - to me - made him an interesting and sympathetic character.

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