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Date Posted: 09:07:11 04/30/03 Wed
Author: e_mc2
Subject: I agree
In reply to: LOF 's message, "It's up to you to set the tone then." on 08:41:11 04/30/03 Wed

And if it was just *his* issue, I would have more control over what's bothering me. I actually have known about this for about 2 weeks (through my dd, because the older one has never expressed anything to me or in front of me). In my home and among my kids, I can set the tone. But my question has become - what's up with the consensus from everyone else? Who made this rule that siblings have squatter's rights to dates?

Here's something else that I realized this year when my dd started high school. She *likes* one of her oldest brother's friends and one of her younger brother's friends, but there is no dating allowed. Also, one of her older brother's friends sneaks to talk to her. The weird thing to me is that *everyone* abides by this craziness! It's like all the kids think this is normal. I have been puzzled by it since I heard about it. Honestly - my dd's dating prospects are unbelieavably limited - and not that *that's* an issue for me, but it simply makes no sense! This whole idea baffles me. Is it just a high school thing? I mean, when everyone is attending different colleges, is everyone then fair game for dating?

I just don't follow these dating rules among high schoolers today - at least the ones revolving around siblings.

One more example - There are two sisters, Amy and Janey (ficticious names). There are two brothers, John and Joe. Amy is dating John and Janey is dating Joe. According to my son, that's wrong. They're all related. Now, my son isn't dumb - I explained the relationships and why they're *not* related. He still thinks it's wrong because "it's brothers and sisters". He said, "That's just wrong." The younger set of siblings broke up within a month; the older set is still together for 5 years now.

What is up with these kids' thinking? Believe me, I've addressed it when it comes up, but they just have this really bizarre thinking pattern regarding sibling dating. If it was just my kids, I'd say it's me. But it appears universal among these high schoolers. And although I try to undo these notions, the kids really are influenced by peer thinking.

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