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Date Posted: 20:43:14 03/25/04 Thu
Author: lynece
Subject: Oh Lauren I have been there
In reply to: Lauren 's message, "It almost seems like..." on 15:25:47 03/25/04 Thu

just reading your post brought back memories and tears to my eyes. I lost 2 babies in the space of 1 year. We were in a starter home ward where everyone was having babies. They even passed around a list in RS asking you to put down your due date because they had so many pg women! I just about quit going to church as I too couldn't handle being childless. One time there was even a talk about how if we weren't having children we would be damned! I literally ran out of the chapel and spent the rest of the meeting in a bathroom stall crying. Even now after adopting 2 children and having a bio baby of my own, I still get so jealous of pg women. My best friend in the ward just told me she's having her 7th. I cried the rest of the day.

It will get easier and hopefully soon you will have your precious child and you will "fit in". Hang in there and just survive any way you can, including missing a few meetings if necessary. The lord understands.

Thanks for sharing, I'm so sorry for the pain you are feeling.

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[> [> Thank You -- Lauren, 15:30:28 03/26/04 Fri

Lynece,
Thank you. So much. Not that I enjoy knowing that you know how I feel, but I appreciate your willingness to share your pain with me. It helps me to know that I am not alone in my feelings. It helps me to know that I am not insane and that these feelings, though not the greatest, are not out of the ordinary. I appreciate all of you women so much, and I especially appreciate your reply Lynece. And someday it will get better,and it's good to know someday there may be a light at the end of the tunnel. Thanks again.

Lauren


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[> [> I think also.....m -- Jo, 16:37:27 03/27/04 Sat

You need to speak with your RS President. Even though it is necessary to know when everyone is due, it is still required as sisters in the gospel to be very aware of each other's feelings. As much as they didn't wish to cause any pain, it has caused pain. Give them an opportunity to mend it and perhaps they, too, may learn that as much as they have been given, the same blessings are not for all.

Sending you many hugs...and I've been there in that stall, Lynece, right along with you. My reason was because it was taught in a Sunday School Class that the only time our prayers aren't answered with what we desire it is because we are undeserving. Very untrue, but it still cut me in half!

Jo


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