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Date Posted: 16:14:41 12/30/03 Tue
Author: lynece
Subject: Can I just vent about my DH

AAAARGH!!!!! A virtual scream doesn't help as much as a real one, but it doesn't hurt my head either.

I've been in a real funk since Christmas and I know a lot of it is pure panic over going back to work full time. I've had no engergy to do anything and there's tons needed to be done before school starts next week.

One of my biggest fears of going back to work is "how am I going to do it all" I have a hard enough time taking care of the kids, trying to keep my house clean enough to at least wade through, and playing house secretary as well; you know, make drs apts, keep up with schedules, etc.. that men NEVER seem to do.

So Calista has the heart murmur checkup on 1/14 at the childrens hosptial (which is a good hour from us). I made the appt make in Oct and they don't give you a choice. They give you a date and its take it or leave it. We didn't know Dh's schedule when I made it and I had no clue I'd be working by then. So its now in 2 weeks and of course DH is working day shifts that day and I'm teaching as its at 10am. When I call and ask him today what are we going to do about it, it all becomes my responsibility! I'VE got to get the sub for my class, or I'VE got to reschedule the appt, he makes no offers to try and trade his schedule. (I hate his job as there is no way he can leave early or come in late, it's more like a prison while he's there for 12 hours), but he could try and shift trade or *gasp* call in sick!!! I don't want to go to the apt alone. I don't like driving up to the Uof U campus by myself and although its just a minor thing, I know I'll be a basket case. I'd invite my mom to go with me, but will probably ask her to subsitute for my class that morning. Except it will be only the 2nd week of school with my new class and I don't think getting a sub is the best thing to do

I knew this would happen. I knew HIS job would always come first, and mine second.Anytime there is a conflict it is my job that's going to have to change. I'm the one that has to be flexible. If the kids are sick it will be me that has to call in sick. I have to do the daycare schedules, etc..I didn't really want to go back to work, but we need the money..OH just thinking about it all has me sick to my stomach!

I think I will just call and try and reschedule the appt, of course that will probably be another 4 months away.

I don't think this made sense at all, but I had to get it out!

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[> doesn't dh get personal leave (m) -- heath111, 19:17:27 12/30/03 Tue

you know... the type I thought they legally had to give you to take care of a child or something. I am no expert on any of these things but it seems like he should be able to get the time off. I know my dh doesn't usually take much time off until he has to because he says it's money in the bank if layoffs ever come his way (well that of course was until my mom's offer to watch the kiddos which was a once in a lifetime offer).

As for doing everying... I bet you will become a master of prioritizing. For example, this past year we had church at 1 pm and we almost always squeeze in at 12:59. When in AZ, we went to our old ward that met at 8:30 and managed to be ready. We knew we had to get it done and didn't waste any time. We figured out the night before this and that and it helped. As for the teaching part I'm not so sure because I only taught 7-12 graders. But I do know that I did much better when I used what little prep time I had wisely. If I blew it I would have a box of stuff to take home (which of course I wouldn't work on), haul back, and feel frustrated over.

Good luck,

Heather


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[> Wish I could help you here, we are in the same boat! -- Heather S., 10:03:03 12/31/03 Wed

Ah why do men do this. Mine is right there with yours.
I know if I got a job it would be more like two full time jobs, one here at home and work. I will keep you in my prayers.

But know too that I will go with you if you keep your apt.
My son Jordan has a murmur too. I would be more than willing to go with you. Just let me know!


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