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Date Posted: 21:50:18 01/19/04 Mon
Author: Heath111
Subject: Good luck Heather (m)
In reply to: Heather S. 's message, "Well, I am starting work on Monday..." on 10:46:34 01/16/04 Fri

I know I cried the night before I went back to work. It sounds crazy but I was just so scared to go back and face my high schoolers without my round tummy and without a baby (and to stand before them feeling so vulnerable). It turned out to be a good thing and really helped me heal. Still, the first week was hard especially the lady who asked me how my little one was and I just said, "He died." I feel bad for the lady now. She really had no idea.

Good luck,

Heather

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[> Hello, In tears here... -- Heather S., 21:07:00 01/20/04 Tue

I hate it, I am a mess. The work is great and I am really going to love it but I want to be home with my kids. (I have a 7 1/2 year old girl and a 3 1/2 year old boy).
I hate leaving them but the most painful part is that I had convenced myself that I wouldn't have to work for several more years with Noah around. It hurts, I feel like i am moving on without him and I am. I don't want to!!! I think of my 3 kids all day long.
I had to just sit in a bathroom stall on my lunch and cry today.

I am doing computer support for Gateway Computers. I am working 8-4:30 M-F so it works great for me and Pre-school/Daycare. Oh well I guess life goes on and I will feel better about all of this soon or sooner or later.
Thanks for listening!


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[> [> Oh, honey, I'm sorry your day was so hard. -- Jenifer, 21:50:23 01/20/04 Tue

New here, but I read your earlier post. Whether you work or not is a decision you must make for the benefit of your family. But I think it's more of the line you drew in the sand for moving on and that's a hard line to cross no matter when or where it is.

You're not leaving your son behind. He is in your heart and always will be. He would not want you to wither away over him. I'm sure he knows you love him and how much you miss him, but the best gift you can give your son is to help you and your family progress toward being a righteous eternal family. You want to make it back to be with him, not be mired down in depression and unhappiness forever.

How and when you move on is individual to you, but please don't feel guilty for taking these positive steps to getting back into life. Move on with him. Find a good way to honor his memory. Take a little something that reminds you of him to work, so you can feel near to him.

As to leaving your other children, that is always hard to do, especially the first day. I think you went through very normal feelings and realize it will get better. Each day you succeed will be a little easier. Some days will be harder than others, but gradually you will come to cope with it.

I'm praying you will find strength to carry on and peace to comfort you.

Jenifer,
Mother to six earth angels and seven angels in Heaven
Our newest angel left us Dec. 5, 2003
We miss you Anna Marie!


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