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Date Posted: 10:38:00 02/10/04 Tue
Author: Jenifer
Subject: Thank you for your thoughts
In reply to: Robin 's message, "a few thoughts" on 10:08:22 02/09/04 Mon

DH and I had to have a long heart-to-heart about our angels. He felt talking about them would make me sad and would make the kids sad. For him, he says, they are just not that real. He knows we will be together in the eternities, but does not have an emotional attachment to them. I had tried to explain how real the promise of something is to a child, sometimes even more real than the reality. I shared with him the experiences I had with my 4 yr old and some of the things the other kids said and I hope he is beginning to understand that they need that "Closure" or validation or something.

I know just naming my angels was one of the most healing things I did. They Lord blessed me to know their sexes and names. Their names came to me, I didn't pick them out. With no body to hold, no face to remember, all I had to hold onto was the pain and had to refer to them as the baby I lost before so-and-so was born. Now they are concrete and I can refer to them with a positive feeling.

I also told DH that not speaking of my angels hurt more than speaking of them ever did. I'm proud to be their mother and I want them remembered. I know the world won't ever remember them, but I feel our family should.

I wanted to have a family home evening last night, but we have a sick house and will have to do it later. Thank you for your prayers.

Jenifer,
Mother to six earth angels and seven angels in Heaven.
Our newest angel left us Dec. 5, 2003.
We miss you Anna Marie!

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