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Date Posted: 17:52:23 11/26/03 Wed
Author: Jo
Subject: Heather, it will take a lot of time and patience.....m
In reply to: Heather 's message, "I am so sad, (preg. m)" on 15:34:01 11/26/03 Wed

For you to come to terms with this - and it will take a lot of patience and a lot of time for your family, too. It isn't easy for you and it can't be easy for your sister, who now has a living reminder of the nephew that she will never hold, the cousin that her little boy will never play with or get into mischief with. It is sad for me, too, to know of the memories that will never be made for her son and for Noah.

I am just so deeply sorry for your heart. I know that you know the plan that was laid out for us before, but I also know that what your brain and soul knows doesn't answer for the pain your heart is still in.

In answer to your question, yes it does get easier - but I cannot answer you when it will happen. It took me about 7 mos to even have the inkling to hold another baby - to not feel a feeling of needing to vomit at the very thought of holding one - and I was amazed that by then, at that particular moment, it was OK. But it wasn't OK at other moments - that takes more time than I even know what to say to you.

I am just sorry - it just brings it all so freshly back to my heart this pain that you are now suffering. I so wish you didn't have to go through any of this, I wish that no one ever did - I wish I had some magic words other than saying I am thinking of you, or that I am sending you hugs...something tangible that will truly make you feel better. But I don't have any of that.

Heather, know that I do care about you - that I know that you can weather through this storm that you are in, that we are all here, no matter what, to help you through this. Talk to your sister - you'll likely be amazed that she is thinking the same things from her heart that you are right now.

Jo

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[> [> Thanks Jo -- Heather, 19:59:51 11/29/03 Sat

I haven't talked with my sister yet, my mom gave me her phone number in the hosp. but I just couldn't get up enough nerve to call her. I think I will wait for a little bit then call her. Thank you for reminding me that she is prob having a hard time with this too. Sometimes I feel so alone in all of this grief that I don't think about how anyone else feels about loosing Noah. Thanks, H.


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