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Date Posted: 12:58:02 09/22/03 Mon
Author: Sheila
Subject: Marie....(((HUGS))) Please post and tell us more and (m)
In reply to: plaidwallaby 's message, "hi" on 08:09:12 09/22/03 Mon

how we can help in any way! I know that you must be VERY busy....but it would be great to know what we can do to support you! HUGs~~~Sheila

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[> [> [> well, -- plaidwallaby, 09:55:58 09/24/03 Wed

i don't know that there's really "more". I'm just so bitter that it's about all I can feel. I guess anger, too. All the bitter kinds of feelings, I guess. I've been busy with Eleanor. She had been growing really, really well. She's now in the 5th percentile, though. Don't know exactly why she's dropped from 50th to 5th, and frankly the doctor doesn't seem concerned anyway. Of course, he didn't seem concerned enough about Dominic, and he's dead now. On sept 11th, there were tears and reflections on "tragedy" that most had no part in. Most never knew anyone who'd died or lost. they offered those tears for strangers.

Who has been crying for Dominic? For us?

Dominic's tragedy started Sept 8th. The relief society pres made her token call. then i didn't hear from her again. my sis-in-law called a few days later from her vacation in CA. on sept 12, my mom posted Dominic's pic on the family website. She called the following week to update on her upcoming cruise. That's all. no other mention.

Dominic has a temporary headstone now (http://www.slothradio.com/gallery/FirstDigital/IMG_0008_001 , http://www.slothradio.com/gallery/FirstDigital/IMG_0009_001 , and http://www.slothradio.com/gallery/FirstDigital/IMG_0010_001). THe guys at the cemetery noticed he didn't have one and poured a small rectangle of cement to put the temporary marker in. they also put the froggy stone in it that had once been thrown out during one of the cemetery clean ups and when I'd noticed it gone the next day, and told them how i'd been attached to his things there because it's really all i have and didn't have money to replace anything since Chris was not working, those men went through the garbage and found that rock for me and put it back. (I don't know how to do those fancy faces, but i'd put a little tearing face with a finger wiping it here). that's one of the most thoughtful things anyone's done for us.

if you want to see other pictures, i have been trying to keep up w/ our gallery: http://www.slothradio.com/gallery/

Love, Marie
wife to Chris, mommy to Ashley, Zildjian, Giovanna, ~i~ Dominic Angelo (april 16, 2001 ~ sept 14, 2001), and Eleanor


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[> [> [> [> Oh Marie....I can see where those feelings would come from.(m) -- Sheila, 12:33:40 09/24/03 Wed

There are so many times when I feel like everyone has forgotten Matthew. Yes he died 4 1/2 years ago.... But with Dominic only being gone a few years you wonder why your family at not showing more sorrow at this great loss of your son! **sigh** I can see how hard that would be to have the day he passed so close to 9/11. Isn't your loss just as painful(or more!!) as the people lost that day?

How I wish that we could educate people more about how hard it is to lose a child.....regardless of how old the child was.

(((HUGS))) and I hope that you know that you can come here anytime for love and support AND to talk about Dominic any time you want. HUgs~~~Sheila

p.s. I have always felt close to your sweet Dominic because our birthday is on the same day!!


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[> [> [> [> OH Marie, I'm sorry the world seems to have forgotten Dominic -- lynece, 09:50:09 09/25/03 Thu

It makes the pain of losing him so much harder. I used to think that if only my baby had lived then peopple would remember him more and he would "count" to them. Unfortunately, as I've learned from you and other mommies, that is doesn't seem to matter when our babies die, the world just keeps on going and expects us to as well.

I do know from my own mother that she really hasn't forgotten my son, but just can't talk about it for some reason. Maybe your mother is like that as well. It doesn't excuse her behavior, but it might help to understand her. usually when people don't know what to say, they don't say anything. And if they only knew that hurts us more than talking about our angels.

I hope you feel better and that the bitterness will ease for you.

And like Sheila said, you are always welcome to talk about Dominic here. We will not forget him!
Love, Lynece


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