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Date Posted: 13:25:05 04/15/03 Tue
Author: tutter13
Subject: Thanks so much for your time Diane. . .(m)
In reply to: chattyf 's message, "Hmmm more thoughts.....(m)" on 13:02:00 04/15/03 Tue

I will try to do some of the problem solving techniques you described. The crying is a problem in a sense I guess because it makes it difficult to find the source of his displeasure and even more difficult to resolve it. I don't mind the sensitive crying (e.g. a dog gets hurt in a movie). I have learned lately real well how to deal with his moods in the mornings that he sometimes has. I used to get rather upset and he'd get upset and then end up crying and I'd let dad handle it. Now I've learned how to find ways to make him laugh instead and our morning routine goes much better. Thanks for the suggestions on problem solving.

One good thing about the neighborhood kids he plays with is they are all older and seem to understand he's younger and work with him a little more, but I don't want him to always get his way either.

Looks like you understand the teasing thing well. Unfortunately his school isn't assertive and don't teach them about tattling vs. right time to tell. For example, there was this one kid who would hit Jon daily. I told Jon he needs to talk to his teacher about it. He said he can't because then he's tattling and he's not allowed. I went to the director and let her know what was happening and what Jon had said. She said for things like that it's ok, but I told her that it's hard for a 5 yr. to know the difference. However, I don't think they have yet to spend time trying to explain to them the difference. I'll be so glad he's out of that school in June. Anyhow, that's part of my dilemma, not knowing the whole story. I'd want to make mention that something is affecting him and see if the teacher can watch for issues between the kids and help the kids resolve them, but I'm not sure I should *butt* in quite yet. Then if I do, I'm not sure how I should go about it. Right now though, I think it's best to hang on a little and talk some more with Jon.

Thanks so much for your insights.

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