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Date Posted: 13:29:51 04/15/03 Tue
Author: mom2jel
Subject: Hi Melissa (m)
In reply to: tutter13 (Melissa) 's message, "Ok, I have a couple of things I need help with. . .(m)" on 10:13:28 04/15/03 Tue

(First, I apologize for not getting you the link to this board - I didn't check my email until today, after you already posted.)

Congratulations Jon on graduating kindergarten!!!
I have 3 boys, my oldest is 8 and is sensitive & gifted (he has to hide his head during some movies like Cats & Dogs when the animals were "fighting") he's been placed in advanced classes at school, although he's never been a "cry-baby", Elijah (5) is one. Elijah tends to cry over things when he's tired (I still make him lay down for an hour and half in the afternoon).

My suggestions:
1. Make sure he's getting a full night's sleep, even if he gets up earlier than usual, make him go back to bed for an hour - he may need to "re-wire" his sleep cycle for a week or so to take advantage of sleeping longer.
2. Acknowledge his frustration, but squash the crying. Something like "I see you're mad about _____, when you can tell me about it with words, I'll listen." Then walk away and ignore the crying (if he's with friends, then show the friends something in the yard away from Jon). Be in the area, but far enough away that the crying doesn't "affect" you.
OR 3. He may just need guidance with how to handle the situations. If you can see what caused the crying, intervene (but don't acknowledge the crying) with questions for him to handle the problem. "Jon, I see you want to be the pitcher, why don't you ask Timmy how many pitches he wants to make before trading positions?" or something like that.

Jon may be intellectually smart, but gets overwhelmed with the "people" aspect. Some role-playing with you at home may help him practice his people manners.

As for teasing at school, my oldest also went through that. The teachers were "concerned" but I never heard/saw anything being done about it. We just kind of stuck it out through the school year. If Jon is able to, have him ignore the kids when they tease and move away from them is probably the best bet for the next month or so.

(((HUGS))) and congratulations on such a smart boy!!
Michelle

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