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Date Posted: 08:37:16 03/15/01 Thu
In reply to:
Kim
's message, "Re: Give me their names & add....." on 11:13:53 03/14/01 Wed
>Marc,
>I don't talk about this much, and maybe that's why it
>still hurts, but here goes.
>
>I married my 1st hubby when I was 15.(not proud of
>that now, so no bashing me) I lived in the middle of
>TN. MOST the men there are like that. It's a chain,
>and hadn't been broken when I lived there. I'd call
>the police, and they never would do anything, I even
>got into trouble for calling them, they said not to
>call them for stupid things. My ex's mother got it
>from her hubby, so she never said anything. We went to
>see my sister, and he hit me there. She was in such
>shock she didn't say anything. Like I said, everyone
>thought he was great.
>
>He was in the Air Force, we got a transfer to Pope,
>NC. Away from everyone and everything I knew, I was
>lost with this asshole. He hit me again, and
>again,....but people over there were different. He got
>his ass kicked twice for hitting me. Marc, I can't
>tell you how many times I left this fool. Or I should
>say I was the fool, since I kept going back. I dind't
>have much of a family growing up, so he and Christian
>were my family. That's all I wanted was my family.
>
>Finally, he pushed me down a set of concrete stairs
>and broke my ribs, I left, and didn't go back. Took my
>son and ran to MO. I filed for divorce after only 3
>years, and he sued me for custody. I thought there was
>no way in hell this guy, who beat me, and I have
>proof, could ever get my child, well he did. The judge
>said Christian needed to be with his dad, and people
>down there think mormons are a cult. YES he said that
>to me, the judge. I fought for 2 full years and
>finally gave up. Christian loves his daddy, and
>Richard had NEVER hurt him.
>
>
>I've seen woman come and go, I tried to tell most of
>them how he was, but they wouldn't listen, till they
>would call and say, I'm bringing Christian to you, and
>leaving this asshole. Then, about 3 years ago, this
>woman came from nowhere. Older lady, about 40 (Richard
>is only 26) Nice lady, she loves my boy, and takes
>very good care of him, and he loves her, well she
>called. Said Richard hit her, she was at Richards'
>mom's house (I was on my way down there for Christmas
>break with Christian) To pick Christian up at the
>in-laws, cause she put Richard in the hospital. He hit
>her one time, and she layed him out. And that's all it
>took. He has never raised his hand at her since, and
>he has really changed his tune with me. We are very
>friendly, we even go out to dinner when I down, all of
>us. Me, my girls, Christian, my hubby, Him and her,
>and it's really nice. He has told me many times how
>sorry he is for doing those things 9 years ago, we
>were both kids, and now that he has had time to think
>about it, he's really sorry.
>
>
>
>
>Before Chris (hubby now) I was married to yet another
>man in the Air Force (maybe that's what it is) And he
>hit me once. I left and didn't go back. He STILL begs
>me too...never, no way. All of this, both men, have
>made me a better person,and have givin me 3 wonderful
>children, and for that, I thank them. Other than that,
>I'll hold there hand to hell :)
>
>
>
>Chris is an awesome loving man. He would never ever
>hit me. We don't even fight. We disagree, but not very
>often, but even when we do...it doesn't really matter.
>I have learned, that the only important thing in my
>life is my family, nothing else REALLY matters. So
>when we do disagree, it's always about something
>silly, and I blow it off, cause life is too short to
>fight with the ones you love.
>
>I'll tell ya though, if one of my girls is ever being
>hit by her man, it will only happen once. They don't
>know my stroies, they are too young, and I probally
>won't tell them when they get older either, but if
>some guy ever touches one of my girls out of
>anger....I will surly beat the snot out of him. (or
>pay someone else to do it)
I hope I didn't pry something out of you that you didn't want to share. I'm really glad you survived and are a better person for it. I get so mad when people think women should be an object of servatude and use them as a punching bag. My wife and I also have disagreements, sometimes heated, but never once have I even though of hurting her, hell, I've hurt myself but never her. (Punched my truck, broke my hand in 4 places, I've learned that is not such a good idea anymore!!) Now that I'm older and wiser ?!? if I need to cool off, I either jump on the bike and cruise, or just seperate myself so that I can come back and discuss things rationally.
You are sooooo much a better person than I, I could never forgive this jerk for what he has done. I know you do it for your son, but still, my hat is off to you!!
Well, gotta go for now. I'm certainly glad that Chris is a good man, you deserve it!
p.s. We are doing the special olympics again this year, if you can make it maybe I can give you that ride on the bike I promised you last year.
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