Date Posted:08:13:18 05/10/05 Tue Author: Anonymous Subject: Jinxed in Love?
I have counseled with a psychic for the past few years regarding my love life (or lack thereof). I am 44 years old and have not had a steady relationship since Aug. '99. I was with the wrong guy for a number of years. I have met a few men since that time that I was truly interested in. A couple seemed interested back, but had issues or balked.
I have since joined an online dating web site (which I said I'd never do). I have corresponded with a guy who lives about an hour away from me. I e-mailed a picture of myself to him but haven't heard back from him since. I have to wonder if he was disappointed in my picture. I am not unattractive but am not a Brittney Spears. He is nice looking but isn't Tom Cruise either. I feel like there is a demon who sits upon my shoulder who gets his jollies after every disappointment and brick wall I hit in the love dept. I can't even get a response from someone who said they were interested in me on a dating site even. My biggest fear is looking desperate or pushy. Neither of which is attractive, but I'm sick of men who act interested but are not.
My psychic has been helpful in some ways, but she is not always right on her predictions. I'm ready to meet someone. I want the guy from the dating site to at least get to know me before he rejects me. Being "positive" about things has proven to be a disappointing venture. I really do not know what to do and am tired of people telling me it's "just not my time".
Well first off I am not sure if you have ever heard this before or not but the saying “Good things happen when you least expect it” comes into my head. I really don’t feel like others think of you as a needy person, so don’t let that become an issue for you. I understand that it might be difficult to just stop looking for love, but when you stop looking for it, it usually comes to you. Just take a step back from what your current dating activities and just start making friends with people. I really believe that once you stop looking for love and just start looking for friends your true love will come through for you. But if you keep doing all these searches for Mr. Right then he won’t come. Just take a step back and take in some fresh air. It never heart anyone else, just give it a try; I think you will be surprised as to what comes of it.
-Devin
