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Date Posted: 06:47:42 12/11/03 Thu
Author: Adalberto Rocha
Subject: Task 10

Topic:
The topic I chose to write about deals with relationships and dating and the matter is: Does her Sexual Past matter?

Summary:
A guy is having a long-distance relationship with a girl and though she swears he is her first, there has been well-spread rumors around her home town that she had an active sexual life with her previous boyfriend, who lives in her town.

One suggestion was that he should decide whether to believe her or not and get along with his decision. If he absolutely canīt deal with never really knowing and if this is such a necessity, then he should end the relationship.

The second suggestion justifies if she is lying because the lie could be due to embarrassement or to his girlfriendīs fear of losing him. The idea is to just forget about it and live the relationship.

The third and last suggestion is for him to talk seriously with her, say itīs ok if she did have sex and find out about it. He would then decide if he can live with the truth, if itīs necessary, or not.

About the topic:
Well, I chose this topic because the past of my ex-girlfriends have always been a concern for me. I came to a personal conclusion that it really is a problem and one that I cannot deal with because it does interfere with my well-being in the relationship Iīm in. I can control the feelings I have for a person, what I canīt control is how I feel towards this doubt. Therefore, if I were in his situation I would just break up. I could not possibly imagine the situation of being ridiculed all over due to a belief, one which is impossible to ever be sure about, I have that my girlfriend lost her virginity with me while her whole town had for a fact that she didnīt and that I was being fooled. Fact is since itīs something I could never really know, the doubt would always haunt me. I, as well as all of us, should be in a relationship that we feel comfortable in and where there is trust in general. The guy doesnīt trust her, and since itīs common for girls to lie about their virginity Iīd say break up and find one whose discourses allow no room for doubt. He will still run the risk of being fooled, after all there is no possible escape from that, but at least nothing would be haunting him.

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