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Date Posted: 14:18:48 04/09/03 Wed
Author: 尼姑
Author Host/IP: NoHost / 61.92.235.185
Subject: 我又咁睇bor (見內文)
In reply to: 民 's message, "「針唔拮到肉唔知痛」實在說得十分準確...(內文)" on 02:17:08 04/09/03 Wed

好多時,我們都會向別人所面對的壓力和痛苦,施以安慰
但我們的安慰往往帶有太理性、太客觀、太具批判性了

--具批判性、理性的「安慰」,我並不認為那些是一般所講的安慰,因為安慰是要在別人角度去想的,當然我們在場外之人,比當時人看得較清楚,所以會作出理性的「分析」,給他辨明好惡... 而講下自己,當我安慰別人時,我會站在他的角度,接受他的感受,明白他的處景,並提供一些出路的指引,我想這亦是別人所需要的!

張國榮在遺書中謝麥列菲菲醫生...
她是一直治療張國榮精神病的精神科醫生...
由此可見,張國榮所受的精困擾,實在積壓得太多了
其實「所有事都有解決辦法」只是一句客套說話.
對當事人並沒有實質意義,
「看不開」就是「看不開」,沒有任何理由可言,亦不須解釋。
若能夠解釋得到為何當下看不開,那就已經看開了,沒有甚麼看不看得開的問題。

-- 是的,他受的壓力,加上他的性格,使他很困苦,但真的沒方法去解決嗎?我並不相信!至少改變對事情的看法已經可以!所有事情都有解決方法是沒錯的!唯有要視乎我們想不想去解決!只要還有一口氣,肯放下,便可以解決!
看不開其實不只是放不開,還是自己的一個問題,其實自己將自己封閉,不去想解決方法,不肯再去行面前的路!所以看不開是要看自己的!

講個故仔:有人有非典型肺炎病去見醫生,當醫生開了葯,但病人回家後見到新聞話死了幾十人則不吃,自己想著自己冇希望的了... 那他會好麼?

給大家的勉勵說話:
每一個危機,是一個轉機,亦是一個生機!
合理的是訓練,不合理的是磨練,無論合不合理都是一重鍛鍊!

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