Concerning the "definition of friendship" everybody's is different and we as individuals have different levels of friendships going on all the time. My daughter keeps telling me I need to stop ignoring my "flesh and blood friends or pretty soon you won't have any" and spending much of what little free time I have on the boards here. I tell her I need to discuss things that matter to me with intelligent like minded people, like Jamie I like to "stretch my mind". I DON'T get that from her father or my "real" friends and coworkers. I have little patience for the mundane talk about (their) kids (I could talk about mine all day but then I'd be as boring as they are LOL) and the price of gas and groceries. So, we don't really know each other, we doubtless will never meet, but I consider you my friends, and you fill a need for me that nobody else does. Friends are indeed where you find them. -- LJG Discussion board

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Date Posted: 06:08:26 10/24/07 Wed
Author: Jane
Subject: Concerning the "definition of friendship" everybody's is different and we as individuals have different levels of friendships going on all the time. My daughter keeps telling me I need to stop ignoring my "flesh and blood friends or pretty soon you won't have any" and spending much of what little free time I have on the boards here. I tell her I need to discuss things that matter to me with intelligent like minded people, like Jamie I like to "stretch my mind". I DON'T get that from her father or my "real" friends and coworkers. I have little patience for the mundane talk about (their) kids (I could talk about mine all day but then I'd be as boring as they are LOL) and the price of gas and groceries. So, we don't really know each other, we doubtless will never meet, but I consider you my friends, and you fill a need for me that nobody else does. Friends are indeed where you find them.
In reply to: MelvaT 's message, "Sorry Jane, I have to disagree with you here. Not that you're wrong, *G* it's just that my definition of friendship includes so much more than good conversation with an equally intelligent person. Jamie and LJG may have found hundreds of interesting topics to discuss, but I believe it simply gave them both a small way to "escape" prison-life and to forget they were both being punished. They weren't friends at this point. You have to be able to trust a friend, and there's no way Jamie could trust LJG with anything that might endanger his family. And how could you possibly be friends with someone who holds the power and control of your life and freedom?" on 13:27:03 10/23/07 Tue

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Jane, you are a verra lovely friend to have, indeed, and we are all the better for it! Thanks for seeing this connection between what we're so busy talking about here, and how we find companionship, intellectual stimulation, solace, etc., here on the boards. (NT) -- pamelalass, 07:27:29 10/24/07 Wed
- Amen to that. The Hosen Few are quite special and the discussions are far deeper and more candid than the usual co-worker lunch chats. I avoid those by coming here. (NT) -- kgp, 10:16:18 10/24/07 Wed
  - I figure if I drivel on here, people can just skip over my posts ("oh, it's her again!") and I will never be the wiser. I can pretty much say whatever is on my mind without guilt. I am always amazed (and occasionally intimidated) by how intelligent and articulate you all are, I don't believe I have ever even been tempted to skip anyone's posts myself. (NT) -- Jane, 15:08:47 10/24/07 Wed
    - Jane you never drivel on! I love reading your posts and ken exactly what you mean by intimidated. *G* I'll let y'all in on a secret. Most of the time it takes me hours to sort out a reply. I even hit the preview button several times before the send and then I'll stress over accidently offending someone. But I enjoy these discussions so much there's no way I could just lurk and keep my mouth shut for very long. Oh, I've also been told, many times, that I needed to get a 'real' life. *VBG* I just tell them I want to dip into a world of intelligent like-minded folks not a stagnate old gene pool. (NT) -- MelvaT, 18:18:23 10/24/07 Wed
      - What is this "real life" you speak of? {G} (NT) -- kgp, 18:25:26 10/24/07 Wed
        Real life? I'm not sure. *G* I think it's that mundane stuff Jane mentions above. If your elderly mother is living with you like mine is, it equals bragging about your ailments.... hemorrhoids, arthritis, water retention, blood pressure, etc, etc. Gets a wee bit taxing to listen to after awhile. (NT) -- MelvaT, 18:52:39 10/24/07 Wed
      - Oh Melva, I can't tell you how many times I have wished that I had previewed and to my horror didn't remember to. It's not just because of the typos and awful grammar that make me look like an idiot either. Sometimes I've just plain said the wrong thing and once it's out there you can't take it back. I hurt someone's feelings on the book board once. Trust me you never get over feeling bad about it once you've done it, even if they say they forgive you, it never quite feels the same. So, thank you to the people who take the time to preview, blessed are the peace keepers, for they shall have a positive influence the hot heads like me. (NT) -- Jane, 20:14:02 10/24/07 Wed
        I've accidently done that too. :-( (NT) -- MelvaT, 22:45:22 10/24/07 Wed
        I wish it had been an accident, it would have been less embarrassing if it had been. Mine was an inexcusable knee jerk reaction to an anti John/Willie comment when I was in a foul enough temper to blow up over it. (NT) -- Jane, 06:22:50 10/25/07 Thu
        LOL! Come to think of it, I have bitten off a few heads in defense of "my" favorite characters too. BJR, Jamie and the word love in the same sentence will still jerk both my knees over my head. :-) (NT) -- MelvaT, 09:24:33 10/25/07 Thu

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