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Date Posted: 13:53:40 08/16/05 Tue
Author: Anonymous
Subject: Found on another board. This is so true, please be aware of other people's feelings.
In reply to: 's message, "Bashing" on 13:52:30 08/16/05 Tue

>Today on Dr. Phil the subject was bullying. And it
>focused on teenagers (ages 13-17) who were seriously
>ridiculed, insulted and publicly humiliated by their
>peers. It brought tears to my eyes to think about what
>some kids have to go through in order for the
>"popular" kids to feel better about themselves. One of
>the most heartbreaking things on the show was a sad,
>lonely emotionally drained mother who told a story of
>her beautiful 13 year old daughter who was bullied so
>bad by the girls in her school that she went home and
>killed herself. She was only 13!
>
>Ladies, it was not that long ago that I was in
>highschool and it wasn't much better. And the pressure
>to look a certain way and to dress a certain way can
>consume these girls, and it is not getting any easier
>for them. As a contestant in pageants, it greatly
>upsets me to see all of the horrible bashing that goes
>about pageant mothers, directors, coaches, and of
>course, the pageant contestants - some of which are
>only babies. It makes me wonder, what are we teaching
>our kids? Are they learning from their mothers and
>role models that it is ok to bash others? Will your
>daughter grow up to be a bully that could ultimately
>harm another? I pray not.
>
>So, I think it is time to take a stand once and for
>all! We can make a change! Please do not encourage
>bashing. There is a difference in speaking an opinion
>and bashing ... and you know the difference!
>
>We all have our own opinions about what pageant is
>great and which is not, which coach is awesome and
>which is not, etc., etc., etc. So please think before
>you post!
>1.) If you realize that your post could hurt the
>feelings of someone else, just don't post it! What
>good is it really going to do? I mean, would you let
>your DD know that you are encouraging bashing and want
>to teach her the same? I don't think so.
>2.) If you seriously have a problem with judging,
>scoring, the competition, the directors, the H&M etc.,
>TAKE IT UP WITH THEM! If you cant say it to their face
>or at least sign your name then maybe you shouldn't
>post it on a board.
>These are just 2 simple things that we can do to
>prevent bashing and encourage our girls to have fun in
>this fun HOBBY of pageantry!
>
>I know that I can speak for all of the adults who love
>the contestants in pageantry - you would not wish
>bullying on anybody, espcially when it harms their
>self esteem and their spirit! Lets teach our pageant
>girls to act like true beauty queens - whether the
>crown is on their head or not!
>
>Thank you for allowing me to voice my opinion and I
>hope that everyone has a blessed day!
>
>Signed
>L

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[> I agree! What a refreshing point of view! I think we all can relate to hurt feelings at one time or another when we were put down. Lets rise above that! Kudos to the OP! -- Anonymous, 16:49:15 08/16/05 Tue [1]

>Today on Dr. Phil the subject was bullying. And it
>focused on teenagers (ages 13-17) who were seriously
>ridiculed, insulted and publicly humiliated by their
>peers. It brought tears to my eyes to think about what
>some kids have to go through in order for the
>"popular" kids to feel better about themselves. One of
>the most heartbreaking things on the show was a sad,
>lonely emotionally drained mother who told a story of
>her beautiful 13 year old daughter who was bullied so
>bad by the girls in her school that she went home and
>killed herself. She was only 13!
>
>Ladies, it was not that long ago that I was in
>highschool and it wasn't much better. And the pressure
>to look a certain way and to dress a certain way can
>consume these girls, and it is not getting any easier
>for them. As a contestant in pageants, it greatly
>upsets me to see all of the horrible bashing that goes
>about pageant mothers, directors, coaches, and of
>course, the pageant contestants - some of which are
>only babies. It makes me wonder, what are we teaching
>our kids? Are they learning from their mothers and
>role models that it is ok to bash others? Will your
>daughter grow up to be a bully that could ultimately
>harm another? I pray not.
>
>So, I think it is time to take a stand once and for
>all! We can make a change! Please do not encourage
>bashing. There is a difference in speaking an opinion
>and bashing ... and you know the difference!
>
>We all have our own opinions about what pageant is
>great and which is not, which coach is awesome and
>which is not, etc., etc., etc. So please think before
>you post!
>1.) If you realize that your post could hurt the
>feelings of someone else, just don't post it! What
>good is it really going to do? I mean, would you let
>your DD know that you are encouraging bashing and want
>to teach her the same? I don't think so.
>2.) If you seriously have a problem with judging,
>scoring, the competition, the directors, the H&M etc.,
>TAKE IT UP WITH THEM! If you cant say it to their face
>or at least sign your name then maybe you shouldn't
>post it on a board.
>These are just 2 simple things that we can do to
>prevent bashing and encourage our girls to have fun in
>this fun HOBBY of pageantry!
>
>I know that I can speak for all of the adults who love
>the contestants in pageantry - you would not wish
>bullying on anybody, espcially when it harms their
>self esteem and their spirit! Lets teach our pageant
>girls to act like true beauty queens - whether the
>crown is on their head or not!
>
>Thank you for allowing me to voice my opinion and I
>hope that everyone has a blessed day!
>
>Signed
>L


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