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Subject:  A few Thoughts |
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Author: DJ |
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Date Posted: 11:00:41 08/29/04 Sun In reply to: Lord Byron 's message, "a few thoughs on my first sensuality workshop at One Taste" on 10:50:54 08/22/04 Sun It must have been quite a course and quite an incident to generate so many posts. I guess it hit a nerve with everyone. That is good. Afterall, it generated all these posts. I read each with interest and can't resist commenting. I wasn't there, so I have no idea of the nuance and context of the act. I know that my preference would have been that everyone stayed to observe even those acts of no sensual interest to them. I think it is the more gracious gesture. I know that if two gay men were in a course and demonstrating, I would be challenged. But, I would like to think that I would have stayed. I think it is just a symbolic way of conveying that everyone's preference is of value and worthy of respect. On the other hand, I wouldn't have been terribly offended. If someone is that uncomfortable or uninterested, it is probably better that he or she not stay. I just think the higher road is to stay. I recognize that society caters predominately to the heterosexual. But in my neighborhood I am almost a token straight. All the billboards here show men kissing men and women kissing women. There is hardly a straight poster in sight. I do believe there should be courses that cater to one sexual orientation so that each group can explore their respective desires to the fullest. But I do also believe there should be mixed classes. If we are going to understand one another, we have to confront each other in the most vulnerable of places. Otherwise, the tendency is to fall back to stereotypes. Besides, the experience can be incredibly rich and rewarding. I know this from personal experience. When I took the course there was one lesbian woman-quite a brave soul. We had a date as part of our homework. I was quite nervous about it. I thought why would she be interested in being with me? I have no desire to be with anyone not interested in me. My concern was whether this would be at all pleasureable for her, or was she just being a good student. It turned out to be a lovely date. I have had another one since then. I consider it a high honor that she would trust me with such intimacy. I love the idea that two people of such different desires can come together and give each other pleasure. I have grown to care for her deeply as a friend. I would never have had that experience if she had not been brave enough to be with a bunch of straights. I am far richer for it. I am not saying this would or should happen to any of you. But remaining segregated because it is more comfortable deprives each of us the opportunity to see the human in each of us. Any opportunity to learn about and respect one another is precious and ought to be nurtured. [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] |
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| Nicely said | carl | 12:50:03 09/01/04 Wed |
| mixed classes | Lord B | 23:18:14 09/01/04 Wed |
| Re: A few thoughts | Jessie | 02:50:54 09/02/04 Thu |
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