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Date Posted: 17:53:46 05/17/07 Thu
Author: Sandy
Author Host/IP: 75-138-107-084.dhcp.hckr.nc.charter.com / 75.138.107.84
Subject: Re: He's not coming
In reply to: Mikki 's message, "Re: He's not coming" on 10:55:17 05/17/07 Thu

I told him I want my money back because I am a struggling single mom and can't afford to lose $258 for nothing. I won't get it back. He goes to school full time and lives with his parents. He won't have it and he won't get it.

I told him that we cannot be friends after this because it took me a long time to get over the stuff that happened in SC enough to trust him as a friend and he is still continually letting me down. What is he bringing to my life other than more grief that I don't need?

I'm sure mommy had something to do with it. He waited until this week to tell her he was coming. He swore he wouldn't back out and he didn't think she would have a problem with it. Tuesday night he said he told his parents and they were ok with it but Weds. morning he sent the message saying he wasn't coming. How much do you want to bet that he actually told them Weds. morning at breakfast and she pitched a fit and that's when he backed out.

Nothing else makes sense. Sunday he sent a text message to my sister-in-law wishing her a happy mothers day and saying he'd be up in a few days and looked forward to seeing her. He told Bill how much he wanted to see him. He told Matt he wanted to do stuff with him and couldn't wait to see him. He called me every single night talking about plans. He was excited that he was going to be here. So what changed overnight??? And why the cowardly text msg? Why won't he call and talk to me?

I'm sure she told him that she was afraid he'd come here and get too involved and get his nerves torn up again...but the thing is, doesn't she think his nerves are upset now? He KNOWS how upset I am. I didn't talk to him for 2 months after he backed out at Christmas. He knows that there's a good chance I won't have anything else to do with him. He's hinted around several times about maybe getting back together in the future. He's said he loves me. well you don't treat people you love like this. And if he really does love me I'm sure his nerves are upset thinking about how upset I am with him.

He should have told Mommy Dearest that he wasn't going to back out at the last minute like that and that he wasn't going to stick me with that plane ticket. He should have reminded her that he's 47 years old. He should have told her that he'll be upset if he backs out because he'll know he's hurt someone he professes to love. But no...he probably gave in to Mommy. Well I hope they'll be happy together.

No one would have lived through the hell I did in SC on and on. Anyone would have left. I had him acting out of control and Matt's dad trying to take him. I didn't just leave. I warned him for a year that I couldn't take much more and would leave if he didn't get help for his substance abuse, porn, etc. He did nothing. So after a year of warning him I left.

Not many people would have paid for his ticket to visit after that. NOt many people would try as hard as I have to be his friend. But I'm done. All I get from him is more pain. I told him in my voicemail that after this I would never be able to believe in him or trust him and I can't have any type of relationship, even friendship, if there is no trust.

He's broken his last promise to me. All I want is my money back and after that I don't even want to hear his name.

Thanks for listening...

Sandy

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