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Subject: About Leaving......please read

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Deb

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Date Posted: 15:22:46 11/17/04 Wed

I understand, as Chocolate does, that if someone is not in a recovery mode, hasn�t attempted and frankly not sure they want to, the board as is right now, I suppose can be as someone said misleading if they come for the first time.

However, ladies�you need to realize what you�re doing is placing far too much power and control onto other people. As Chocolate said, this is just as much YOUR board as hers or anyone else�s. It is what YOU make of it. If you don�t post then you�re only relying on other people � to feel better, good or just connect. I know she has said from the very beginning that she is open to and welcomes suggestions or changes. How many of you have emailed her to tell her? I know there haven't been posts about changes or suggestions.

That is not fair to others. You want to be a part of something then contribute. Speak up, post your thoughts and get threads started. The people who say it�s changed and they are leaving in my mind are sitting back and waiting for others to do for them. Perhaps that is why you don�t feel like you�re ready to get well or don�t want it. You�re stagnated because you�re relying on other people. That can be ok, too but please don�t blame the board or the person who set it up for you or anyone who has posted on it.

Please think hard about what I�m saying to all of you. I sincerely don't mean to be harsh but I really want you to think first, then act. Something I neglected myself to do recently and I regret it ~ it was wrong and got out of hand. Don't follow that lead. When you stop and take responsibility for yourself and your own actions � then #1 you can make this board, through your own individual contributions, what you want it to be and #2 YOU can be whatever YOU want to be.

We ALL have had the same interest in mind...the well being of others - particularly everyone who has shared something of themselves on this board. Don't just toss that away. I wish you all well.
Deb

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