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Date Posted: 12:54:59 11/12/04 Fri
One has to wonder what goes through some people’s minds sometimes. Eleanor Roosevelt said it best when she said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent”.
Seems some people would like to express the feeling that I somehow run this board (everyone should know this is Chocolate's) have the power to run people’s lives, feelings and thoughts. Nothing could be further from the truth. If anything else, I hope everyone who reads this as well as everything else that has been posted, learns this lesson that Eleanor tried to teach people. I cannot run over you or make you mad or feel bad…you and only you have the ability to give me or anyone else that kind of power. A good lesson in all this…take responsibility for your own actions, back up your words even if you’re only expressing your own opinion. You’re one of God’s children and it’s your right to have your own mind and to speak up for it.
If you want to run and hide when someone says something you don’t agree with or hurts your feelings, then do as you’ve been doing through your eating disorder and go run and hide. Hide from the rest of the world while it passes you by. But quit whining about it, too. If you want to grow up in this world and live long, you better get a thicker skin.
It also surprises me that people who have not been enormous, not even daily contributors to the subjects on this board have the gall to post dramatic exit farewells and call themselves members as if they've paid any kind of dues (monetary or otherwise in terms of contributions). You're not doing anything but dragging everyone else on the board into the mess and making them pick sides. Yeah, that's real nice and thoughtful!
BTW, You are WELCOME, Sally that I along with Dawn and Chocolate have provided you and the others a place to come to when the Ana and Mia Talk Board was shut down. How observant of you to notice this has turned more recovery oriented which is what the 3 of us were trying to do in helping all of you. Dawn was still very active - not entirely by her own choice but Chocolate and I have made it clear we have 3 years of recovery under our belts and the advise we offered was always of a healthy nature - not tips and tricks like what it sounds like you're looking for. I'm not even sure what you managed to get out of just reading here for as long as you have.
As for the newcomer - I made my points about what and why I had a problem with her posts. The mere nature of them were not as innocent as claimed to be. And I quote, "To make such a bold statement as "the U.S. is STILL the most free constitutionally evolved and rights-for-its-citizens country in the world" is very ethnocentric. This message is not meant to be insulting in any way, but before posting, always make sure that your facts are straight". You mean to tell me the first time you come on this, an ED board and butt your nose in a conversation between a friend from my local town area and myself, comments we made more or less in jest to each other you post something like making a BOLD STATEMENT.....ETHNOCENTRIC statement.....and you telling me before I POST TO GET MY FACTS STRAIGHT is NOT insulting? Especially since you claim you've been reading this board for quite some time. Then you obviously know that I have been on here from the beginning...and helped a lot of people (most of whom don't come here anymore because they are trying to get well) and you have the audacity to say that to me then try to smooth it over with "This message is not meant to be insulting in any way"? Just who are you trying to kid? I sincerely hope everyone can see you for who you are and what kind of person you are.
There is still nothing in my 2nd or 3rd posts that suggest anything other than reminding someone that this was an ED board - I said I was glad they she found something to relate to on here. I asked that politics be kept out and directed her to an appropriate address for message boards on the topic should she be so inclined. I also thought the use of the word ethnocentric was over-the-top as I didn't intend to make any statement that I belonged to a superior group nor have I ever made any comments of the like. I said I didn't want to get into any discussion or debate on politics on this board as it was inappropriate and least of all to have 2 very opposing parties discussing it (that's what I meant by "but least of all a Canadian at that" We surely would disagree - that was a gimme).
Yet not only did she not stop but kept coming back and with hurtful remarks (Umm...newsflash...like that wasn't a tongue-in-cheek way of saying, "hey stupid..." - I'm too old for that garbage which is why I put it a little more eloquently but just as tongue-in-cheek back to her about being intellectually challenged) and more putting words in my mouth (like what Catherine did again with Sally's comment:, "Given that the person who made those comments is a real presence here..." Catherine quoted Sally and said, "You're right, Sally - Deb seems to have an overbearing presence on this board..." EXCUSE me, but there's an enormous difference between someone saying someone is a real pressence and someone else calling that same person overbearing. Not to mention just another insult at my expense.
Lastly I don't appreciate the insinuation that I made Cali or anyone else leave. As a lot of you know I was running a recovery board and Chocolate runs this one. She is the only one who can make someone leave by not allowing them to post or deleting them. Not me. This is a free message board and as such is not run by a moderator who reads and approves messages before they are posted for all to see on the board. None of the boards have been set that way because no one has the time to monitor them like that. As such, it is an open forum - that's all I was saying.
I hope any one of you reading don't let a few people stop the rest of you from supporting each other as you have in the past. Unfortunately things get said, emotions can run high and no one knows what kind of day the person on the other end is having. Sometimes one should chalk it up to one misunderstood statement and let it go and move on. I intended to end the lousy conversation between Catherine, Sally and myself and let things cool down. Instead they want dramatic farewells and in so doing are continuing to hold onto it and making more of an issue. Cooling off is definately in order.
Take care All,
Deb
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