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Subject: Re: I hate myself

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Deb

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Date Posted: 21:02:54 09/16/04 Thu
In reply to: Basil 's message, "Re: I hate myself" on 19:25:36 09/16/04 Thu

>Lara,
>I just want to agree with MrsK and tell you we all
>really care about you and want you to be well. Don't
>worry about "normal"--I don't think ANY of us feel
>normal. Just think of "normal" as a setting on the
>dryer, it doesn't mean anything at all. Ana wants you
>to give up on eating, but as anyone here will tell
>you, your body needs certain things just to survive.
>We all just want you to be okay.
>
>For whatever it's worth, I really don't think people
>are talking about you behind your back. But I TOTALLY
>understand, I always used to think people were talking
>about me. Sometimes I still do, but mostly I've
>learned to just not care. If they are your friends,
>they care about you and just want to help. If they're
>not, don't worry about what they think. NO ONE pleases
>everyone, no matter what they do.
>
>Remember people here care about you.

I agree as well with mrsk and basil...and I like that thought of thinking of "normal" being a setting on your dryer! VERY good! :o)

We do care and some of us have been through those tough times at college and even in the workforce. Just to share a little...I, too always thought people were talking about me all the time and when I'm struggling I STILL have those feelings that everyone is looking at me and judging me. It really does suck. But that's what ED's do to your head.

When I'm having a bad time and tell my husband that someone is "out to get me" or something like that, he always uses the line that that's my head lying to me again. Don't listen to your head...it's hard and I get sometimes get angry when he even says it, but I know he's right. Give yourself time and be patient and kind to yourself. You'll work through it.
Best wishes,
Deb

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