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] Date Posted: 14/12/06 15:31 In reply to: sweetsong 's message, "giving" on 14/12/06 10:13 I agree wholeheartedly with what Blackhawk was saying. I don't think that we can know for sure where our good deeds lead - you may do something good for someone, which in turn means they are feeling more inclined to do something for someone else, the next person is feeling happier so does something which in turn may lead to something good happening for another person.... and so on and so on.... for me it's all ripples. I personally don't much like the word 'should' - it implies you are doing something because you have been told to, not because you want to... (but then words can get so confusing anyway!! lol). I know you say you are Hindu, but I thought in previous threads you have mentioned that you are Hindu 'by default' (as in your family are Hindu and so therefore you are) - I got the impression that you weren't feeling that it was YOUR path... and yet you cling on to what you believe others expect you to be doing. Never live your life as someone tells you to... (unless you are happy to do so) this is YOUR life honey, and you will feel no comfort or peace until you are living it the way YOU want. (no offense meant) [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] |
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Author: zenwind [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 14/12/06 18:44 "i always feel i give more of my time/resources/attention than people do me." You sound like you are hurting over this, as you use the word 'cope' suggesting you feel a little challenged at others reactions. Well my suggestion is don't try so hard, just be, don't identify with 'needing to give,' dip away for a bit from your guideline while still trying to not cause harm to anyone...... because it will all fall into its natural order.....be true in your responses...... more true to yourself. More loving of yourself. As for other people......ahhhh, other people! Well we are the same but also we are all complex beings, think of all the influences in our lives....place of birth, country of birth, life, friends, family, feelings sad, feeling happy, confident one day, unsure the next, differing needs, changing desires....all the prevailing winds of heart mind...... Just as you are complex, so am I, as we all are... and in that wonderful complexity we meet each other, how wonderful is that! Ahhhh. But! But!! Would it be easy for me to do what you expect in reaction to the chemistry that occurs when you share parts of yourself with me? No! I don't even know what you expect and my experiences may not have even have taught me how to be the way you want! eeeeeeeekkkkkkk. Help! tee heee. What I am saying in my view is that to add expectation of each other is really adding a layer of complexity to our lives that will just create nigglesomeness :) So let go, be your natural self moment to moment....and you will be just as giving but also I do so hope your peace will improve. Namaste zenwind [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |