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Author: Lilly from the Valley | [ Next Thread |
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] Date Posted: 5/01/07 10:44 In reply to: sweetsong 's message, "friendship" on 4/01/07 12:26 Hello Sweetsong I think Ash & Sam are right - rejection is something most people fear. You need to remember that she liked you when she met you, so unless you do or say anything to make her think otherwise, why would she not like you now? Sounds to me like you need to build up your confidence a bit. I used to stand in front of a mirror every day and make affirmations to myself when I was at a real low and had no confidence in myself. This worked for me but Im not saying it will necessarily work for you. Also, finding something that you are really good at (everyone is good at something) and getting really involved in it will boost your confidence no end. I have friends whom I have known for years whom I dont always see a lot of or speak to very often. One of whom travels all over the world (lucky girl) and I dont see her for months. She'll pick up the phone out of the blue and say "is the kettle on"! She'll then come and see me and its as if we only saw each other yesterday. There are no conditions to our friendship - I understand her lifestyle and she mine. What Im trying to demonstrate here is that you dont need to be inside each others pockets - true friends, and as Ash rightly says it can take years to build a bond, are there for each other whenever and whatever. Take care hun & stop worrying. Lil [ Next Thread | Previous Thread | Next Message | Previous Message ] |
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Author: whitewolf [ Edit | View ] |
Date Posted: 7/01/07 3:57 There's not a lot a could add that wouldn't simply echo what others have already said... but do try not to fret so sweetsong - just because someone doesn't reply straight away doesn't necessarily mean something negative. She may be busy, or perhaps she hasn't read your emails yet, or she may be waiting to reply when she is in the mood to - which again, isn't a negative thing :) I have friends (and I know I am also like this) who I don't hear from for ages and out of the blue they'll resurface to say hello and, more often than not, it's like we've not been apart. When we're not in contact I'm not worrying that they no longer 'like me' and I'm sure they wouldn't be thinking that I didn't care for them simply because they hadn't heard from me. We're all individuals, try not to expect others to act how you would. Give your new friend space - and try not to let negative thoughts niggle away at you. As Lil said, perhaps some daily affirmations would help you. ((hugs)) [ Post a Reply to This Message ] |